Do I pay for bridesmaids hair and makeup?

kleggitt1

I'm getting married in August and have 6 bridesmaids plus 3 junior bridesmaids and 2 flower girls. I fiigured we could just do the 5 younger girls' hair and light makeup to save money.
I have gotten quotes from 8 different hair/makeup artists and they all are around $700-$1000 for me plus the 6 bridesmaids. This really isn't in my budget. 
I thought about maybe just paying for their hair or letting them choose either hair or makeup. How should I approach this? 
I don't want my bridesmaids to be offended that I'm not paying for their hair and makeup since they are already buying the dress, shoes, and doing so much.
Please HELP! 

Viczaesar

Oh fun, disappearing posts again.

ETA: Never mind, this was cross posted (without XP) on Moms & Maids.  I knew I'd answered this somewhere!

Winnertag1

If you are making it mandatory that they get their hair & makeup done, then yes you have to pay. If you are giving them the option than no you dont.

You should ask your BM's what they want to do & if they want to get their hair & makeup done with you, it would be nice if you could pay for one of them atleast but if it's not in your budget dont worry about it.

$700 isnt that bad! The MUA i seleceted for my wedding came to over $800 after taxes and service fees for just myself & my 3 bridesmaids and my wedding planner said she was one of the most affordable shes ever found with the quality of work. Thankfully my lovely WP offered to pay for the bridal part h&m as a gift.

mbody

Are you requiring their hair and make-up be done professionally? If so, then yes, you pay.

[Deleted User]

The rule that you have to pay for their hair is something I haven't heard of before.  When my MOH got married, we paid for our dresses, shoes, alterations, hair, nails and makeup if we wanted it done.  I didn't resent her for it and I didn't expect her to pay, so we're doing the same thing for my wedding.  I think when you agree to be in someones wedding you agree to pay for all of the above.  I guess my advice to you would be to feel out what your bridal party thinks about it.

frantastic12

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[QUOTE]I'm getting married in August and have 6 bridesmaids plus 3 junior bridesmaids and 2 flower girls. I fiigured we could just do the 5 younger girls' hair and light makeup to save money. I have gotten quotes from 8 different hair/makeup artists and they all are around $700-$1000 for me plus the 6 bridesmaids. This really isn't in my budget.  I thought about maybe just paying for their hair or letting them choose either hair or makeup. How should I approach this?  I don't want my bridesmaids to be offended that I'm not paying for their hair and makeup since they are already buying the dress, shoes, and doing so much. Please HELP! 
Posted by kleggitt1[/QUOTE]
 

If it isn't in your budget, then don't require that they get their hair done--because if you're requiring it, then you should pay for it.  And actually, you should be paying for the shoes if you're requiring the same shoes for everyone.  I was in a wedding where we were required to get hair and nails done at our own expense, and everyone found it to be very rude of the bride. 

FTR, in the numerous weddings I've attended, I have never ever noticed whether or not the BM's shoes match, or if their hair was professionally done, etc.  Those are things that  probably no one outside of the WP will notice. 

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]The rule that you have to pay for their hair is something I haven't heard of before.  When my MOH got married, <strong>we paid for our dresses, shoes, alterations, hair, nails and makeup <em>if we wanted it done</em>.</strong>  I didn't resent her for it and I didn't expect her to pay, so we're doing the same thing for my wedding.  I think when you agree to be in someones wedding you agree to pay for all of the above.  I guess my advice to you would be to feel out what your bridal party thinks about it.
Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]

<div>The "if we wanted it done" is the distinction.  If the BM decides to get her hair, makeup or nails done, she can pay for it.  If the bride tells them they need to get those things done professionally, the bride pays for it.  </div><div>
</div><div>With shoes and accesories, if the bride picks specifics (these shoes, pink dyables, a pashmina) she pays.  If she tells them to get whatever they want (any black sandals) they can pay/wear what they have/borrow, etc.</div>

TiffannieF

I would just let your ladies decide whether or not they want to get their make up/hair professional done.

For me, personally, I only trust one person with my hair...so if a bride required me to get my hair done by a stranger I would feel very uncomfortable...and I most definitely wouldn't want to pay for anybody to do my hair that isn't my stylist.

I knew my BMs and that they weren't make up people so I didn't bring it up but for the hair I just said, "I will be getting my hair done at this time at this place.  I don't have any preferences on how your hair style but let me know if you would like to get some prices for you, if you would like to get your hair done by my stylist."

kleggitt1

I am not requiring them to get their hair and makeup done. And they aren't wearing a specific shoe. The dresses are long so the shoes won't really show. All I'm asking for shoes is that they get a neutral/gold color heel. 

As far as hair and makeup, I thought since updo's are harder to do than your makeup I would offer everyone that. But they are not required to do it...... 

Or should I let them choose one or the other and then they can pay for the one they didn't choose if they want it done?

jemmini6

If you are saying "I want you to have your hair and make-up done by a professional for my wedding.  I'm making you an appointment with my stylist, you need to be there by X time", then you need to pay for it.

However, if you say "If you'd like to have your hair and make-up done by a professional, then I can arrange an appointment with X stylist and the cost is $X.  If you'd prefer to book your own stylist, or just do your hair and make-up yourself, then that is completely okay too."  Then you don't have to pay.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]I am not requiring them to get their hair and makeup done. And they aren't wearing a specific shoe. The dresses are long so the shoes won't really show. All I'm asking for shoes is that they get a neutral/gold color heel.  As far as hair and makeup, <strong>I thought since updo's are harder to do than your makeup I would offer everyone that</strong>. But they are not required to do it......  Or should I let them choose one or the other and then they can pay for the one they didn't choose if they want it done?
Posted by kleggitt1[/QUOTE]

<div>Are you telling them they need to wear up-dos?  </div><div>
</div><div>If you want to offer to pay for one or the other and let them choose, that would be fine.  "I have a hair & make up person who will be available on the day of the wedding starting at X.  I will treat everyone to either hair or makeup, your choice.  Please let me know by Y if you'd like to have hair, make-up, both or neither professionally done."  </div>

mbcdefg

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[QUOTE]I am not requiring them to get their hair and makeup done. And they aren't wearing a specific shoe. The dresses are long so the shoes won't really show. All I'm asking for shoes is that they get a neutral/gold color heel.  As far as hair and makeup, I thought since updo's are harder to do than your makeup I would offer everyone that. But they are not required to do it......  Or should I let them choose one or the other and then they can pay for the one they didn't choose if they want it done?
Posted by kleggitt1[/QUOTE]

If you're telling them that they have to have their hair in an up-do ... even if you give them the option to do it themselves or go to their own stylist ... then you have to pay.

If you are just saying, "My stylist is available if you want her and she costs $x," then you do not have to pay.

If you feel like it, you can certainly say, "I am willing to pay for either your hair or makeup as a treat, if you want to take me up on that offer" ... that's a very generous offer of you. You don't HAVE to do this, though.

I told my bridesmaids that they were free to do their own hair/makeup or find their own stylists. They both decided to use the same makeup girl as me, but they went to different hair salons and they decided to get their nails done as well. They wore their own jewelry and black shoes. Their dresses were $129 apiece and I placed the order on my credit card, and I told them they could just pay be back $100 each. I also put a $50 Visa gift card in with their gifts at the rehearsal dinner, so IDK if they used it toward their hair or kept it for another purchase.

slgirl21

 wow...of all the weddings that I've been in ( 9) I've paid for my dress, shoes, hair and make up from my OWN POCKET. So no you don't have to pay for them.

slgirl21

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[QUOTE]The rule that you have to pay for their hair is something I haven't heard of before.  When my MOH got married, we paid for our dresses, shoes, alterations, hair, nails and makeup if we wanted it done.  I didn't resent her for it and I didn't expect her to pay, so we're doing the same thing for my wedding.  I think when you agree to be in someones wedding you agree to pay for all of the above.  I guess my advice to you would be to feel out what your bridal party thinks about it.
Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]


Same goes for me and I've been in 9 weddings...yes 9... and I've paid for all, so now there isn't a rule that you have to pay, but I would recommend that you find something on there budget for hair and make-up, don't make them pay out hundreds of dollars, you can find budget hair styles and make up artist.   Good Luck!

sarahmack36

I am on the east coast so maybe things are done differently depending on where you live. I have been in weddings and now I am getting married. All my bridesmaids, bought their own dress, bought shoes that we all agreed on (same style-unforgettable moments-payless) and are paying for thier own hair to get done. They are doing their own makeup and selecting their own jewelry. I am paying for each of them to get a 30 minute massage and manicure at the local spa.

bencomobride

i sent a message saying "i'll be getting my hair and make up done at "name of salon". If anyone would like to join me it will be $20 for Hair $15 for make up. If you want i'll set up your appt"

jemma812

I picked out bridesmaid dresses that were affordable for all the girls to pay for since I know they do not have alot of money.I told them that they will have to pay for their hair but if they do find someone cheaper to do thier hair they can go to them as long as it is professionally done.As far as make up they are all doing thier own unless they have the money to do it along with thier nails.