New! Bridesmaids concerns, please Help!!!!

bride n love2011

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bride n love2011

Right. I understand there are not "duties" that have to be done. I actually meant i want sure if she would flake out of ANY of the wedding stuff at all. Im not saying she would but it would deff be something i would stress about. Im not expecting anything from anyone of my bm's except to be there for me as a friend. i dont think thats terrible?

and i havent mentioned anything about the wedding to them, i understand its a while away so im not freaking out to do bridesmaid dresses or anything but its still something i need to think about.

as far as the whole ex bf thing goes. there was no fight or drama, she was just trying to make it into a big thing and be shady to me about it so i just calmly and nicely let her know that i knew what happened and that it should be out on the table since we all hung out regularly and i didnt want things to get weird and that was that...or so i though.  She seemed fine and everything was back to normal but i guess i was very wrong.

Im not planning on "kicking anyone out", if our friend ships get repaired then by all means i asked them and would want them to be in the wedding but i also cant have a bridesmaid that i dont speak too can i?

bride n love2011

and about the whole ex thing: i prob shouldnt have posted that bc there is too much info to explain it all to make it make sense to anyone who will read that.  Trust me, im all about the ex bf's are fair game but this was a diff issue.  The reason that I think we do not talk is because of some stuff that the moh most likely said to her since recently ive found out she spreads lots of lies and rumors about me (these two are friends from high school if you cant tell yet)

I understand some friendships arent meant to last and thats fine. I have other friends who are always there for me and have taken full charge of helping me plan the wedding without me ever mentioning it or asking, and i have been extrememly grateful to them. 

I guess what i was trying to ask advice on was if things dont get better between us when the wedding gets closer and i try to talk to them and see whats going on, what should i do about their involvment in the wedding if they never formally back out.

bablingbrooke

If the friendship runs its course, the WP aspect will take care of itself.  But you're not entirely helpless in this--try fixing the friendships.  You have a long way to go before the wedding, and plenty of time to try to patch things up.  If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, but at least you tried.

In case you were wondering, there's no need to replace them if you guys do go your separate ways before the wedding.

bride n love2011

Thanks! that helps.

frogurt814

When it's time to start looking at BM dresses and ordering dresses, ask them all individually for their budget for a BM dress.  If they never get back to you or if they do get back to you but then don't order their dress in time, then I'd say it would be safe to assume at that point that they had officially taken themselves out of the wedding.