HELP!!!! My MOH is pregnant and due 3 days after the wedding!!!

k3montel

What do I do? My MOH is pregnant, and she is due only 3 days after the wedding!!! What do I do?

bablingbrooke

The first thing you do is get a freaking grip.The second thing you do is reduce the size of your siggy.The third thing you do is congratulate your friend.The fourth thing you do is realize that she may need to drop out of the wedding but that it will be her call whether she decides to do so.

ffmaid

You celabrate with her that she is pregnant with a new little one. Oh and as far as your wedding yes she is unlikely to be there particularly if oot but in lieu of bouquet send her flowers that day And you will have someone to show off yoru photos to

Licia&Wayne

Tell her congratulations. Then, wait and see. It's up to her to let you know what to do. She may go in to labor early, the baby may be late, she may just want to come as a guest, she may be standing right by your side...you don't know and since you're not her or her womb you'll just have to wait for her to let you know what her plans are. If she can be there, that's awesome. If she can't because she's getting ready for baby, she'll be there in spirit and celebrating her child's birth along with your wedding somewhere else and that's awesome too. Relax and let her tell you what she would like to do.

lyndausvi

This is what I did. I told my BM that  I love her and it's totally up to her. I told her she had up until the time she walks down the aisle to tell me what she would do.   She could either stand with the rest of the girls, she could sit with my parents or she could just not attend.  I wanted her to make a game-day decision.  She bought a dress on her own that was the same color as the BM (I didn't see the dress until the day of the wedding).  I still put her in the program and got her flowers and gifts.  She ended up coming to the wedding and walked with the rest of the girls.  But if she could not have made it, I would have just sent her the flowers and gift.  It was not a big deal to me.

banana468

Talk to her and see what she'd like to do.  Leave the ball in her court with how she'd like to handle things.  If she decides she can't make it, don't replace her and just list her as MOH in your program.And please reduce your signature. 

jeannigirl

Geeze congradulate her announcement send some flowers. Let her know that whatever  she feels comfortable in doing. If she is OOT then she not be able to travel that close to due date. You just be supportive and understand if she can't be there with you.

mbcdefg

Continue on as planned unless she comes and tells you that she doesn't want to do it. Don't suggest it to her because it will just make it seem like you want her out, which I'm sure you wouldn't want to do to a good friend, right?

trix1223

What are you thinking your options are?

salt78

God why couldn't she have kept her legs closed until AFTER the wedding?? Doesn't she realize the horrible position she is putting you in!?!?!? What an awful girl she must be.

tdmd09

My BM is due 4 days after my wedding, and she found out she was pregnant a few weeks after I asked her. She dropped out immediately because she didn't think she'd be able to participate, and she actually told me I should replace her. I chose not to.She's still continued to be my awesome friend, she hosted my shower at her house and is attending my bachelorette party (we're doing dinner and a comedy club). We've told her she is welcome to attend the wedding, I'm still getting her a gift. Her husband is the best man, so there's a possibility he may not be able to be there either. He actually told us we could replace him too. We told both of them they were being silly, and they should do whatever they feel comfortable with.I love the idea of sending flowers that day -- I'll have to do that.

carrieoz_76

Yea, one of the girls who will be a BM for me is also in the process of trying to get pregnant.  So there's a chance she won't be at the wedding (it's in Hawaii, and we're not).  I've just decided that I'd like her to do any BM stuff she wants to do beforehand (i.e., help with shower and bach party, if she expresses an interest), and if she's not able to, then I have other friends who've offered to help with the same stuff.As for the wedding itself, if she can make it, great.  If she can't, I understand (how could I not?  ).  I know she wants to be there, but life happens.  I'm just going to wait and see and let her decide how much/little she wants to do.  You should probably do the same.

jennylee753

omg Bablingbrooke I almost just peed my pants. hahahaha

k3montel

Okay...thank you... How to I reduce my siggy?  I would love to, I just don't know how.  And...thank you for the advice...I wasn't freaking out...I just wanted to get people to look at this. She wants to be in the wedding still, and I told her that I support her in whatever she chooses.  Her husband is a groomsman as well, so we may be missing two people on the day of the wedding.  Anyway, thank you!