Best Man pulled out of wedding

Aurelia24

Well, the best man has had to tell us he can't make it to the wedding (for genuine reasons beyond his control). It's 25 days until the big day, and we don't have anyone else to ask. My fiance is upset because he thinks it will make him look like he 'has no friends.' My brother is a groomsmen, and I have two bridesmaids. (It's a small wedding.) But my fiance wanted the numbers to be even. How can I make him feel better? Or do something to help? Thanks for listening!

emilykathleen511

If the legit reason that the best man can't make it to the wedding is an amicable one, then you could always list his name in the program as "Honorary Best Man" to honor him even though he wasn't able to be there. It kind of depends on why he can't be there.

Heather822

This happened to me the NIGHT BEFORE MY WEDDING (I later found out it was because Best Man knew my fiance was cheating on me, and even though he didn't have the balls to tell me, he decided he no longer wanted anything to do with the wedding. I sure he wish he had though, as I would have called it off and saved $3,000 in anullment fees. But I digress....)ANYWAY, how I handled what I THEN thought was the biggest crisis of my life.... we just "upgraded" a groomsman to the bestman position, and even though it did make the bridal party sides uneven, I sincerely don't think anyone noticed. Two bridesmaids walked back down the aisle with one grooman, and our photographer was super creative with photographs. The upgraded groomsman even gave a really great toast. It was not a big deal. I am sure you will be fine... sorry your fiance feels bummed, but I assure you no one will be casting judgment on him on your wedding day!

mbcdefg

Don't worry about even sides. Just go on with who you have. You don't need to promote anyone or find a replacement. That day, you'll be so happy and having so much fun that you won't notice.

banana468

Don't worry about replacing him - since that makes it seem like someone was second fiddle.  Just ask someone to hold the rings and act as a witness. 

Aurelia24

Thanks for all the positive advice and kind words. I'll definitely add the best man's name to the program as an 'honorary best man' so thanks emilykathleen511. And Heather - your story really puts things in perspective. I guess something like this really isn't that big a crisis. I hope you are okay and happy now. Thanks for the advice. mbcdefg and banana468 - thanks to you both as well. I feel a lot better after reading all your comments and I'm sure I can make my fiance feel happier about it too.

Heather822

Yes, thank you for the kind thoughts... that was many years ago. I have healed and am excited to be starting the next chapter in my life. And again, your day will be beautiful... all about you & your hubby. No one will be counting the members of your bridal party & wondering why the number is not higher. All eyes will be on you. Enjoy it!