Need Immediate Advice! Please Help!

Katie8814

I am getting married in 22 days to be exact. Believe it or not, I am stress free from all the planning but over the edge of being stressed by my family. First, my sister and I used to be close and since it came time for me to plan this wedding, she hasn't been there for me with planning or ANYTHING. For my bridal showers, she left out of town, and returned the day after all of them. Since I have been planning this wedding for over two years, I did ask for her to stand up. (not as a maid of honor because my fiance and I had no idea if we wanted to do Maid of Honor and Best Man) As of right now, she is still standing up, unless she drops out at the last minute but I don't know where to place her. Right now I have my best friend next to me and my sister behind her. But is it really fair to the other girls that have done so much for me to have my sister so close? I am already nervous to see her at rehearsal because I haven't seen her in 5 months and she isn't coming to the bachelorette party! Please help! I am printing program next week and need to put her somewhere!

bablingbrooke

Don't rank anyone. That's silly. It's silly that you think anyone will care what order people are listed in the program. Have you ever really cared about the order of names in a wedding program, if you read it at all?

carrieoz_76

I have three BMs, no MOH. I did not select a MOH b/c all three girls and I have been bff's since college, and I don't see any one of them as being a better friend than the other. On the day of, I'll probably eeny meeny miny mo it.

quezzo

I'm listing people in the program in alphabetical order. Now, in terms of where she should stand, I am putting people in order by how much they mean to me. Call it crappy if you want, but I believe the better friends should just be closer and there is a rank here. (If other brides here have an issue with this please tell me how your ordered your people to stand so you can grace me with your wisdom.) I don't have a sister and my cousin is Maid of Honor. Anyways, I am sorry she being crappy about it. Its hard to believe she missed the shower and stuff. Maybe she is hurt because you didn't ask her to be your maid of honor? Do you feel comfortable talking to her about it in a non-confrontational way? Not about not being a bridesmaid, but just about the fact that she hurt your feelings? At least, that's what it sounds like is really behind all this. Did you tell her you really wanted her there?

goheels05

You are way overthinking this.  Put them in ABC order and quit whining.

ffmaid

Honestly when standing up in a friends wedding I would be made very uncomfortable if she listed me and had me walk in front of her sister. Your M expect your sister first. Go with it they will be happier and feel  less like they are causeing you family issues if you list her first  

Leah&Christian09

**Call it crappy if you want, but I believe the better friends should just be closer and there is a rank here. Yup, it's pretty crappy to say, oh, you're third, and I like her a little less, so she's fourth. How does the girl on the end feel? Yeah, that stopped being cool in the 3rd grade. (Not that it was really cool then, we just didn't know any better.) I had my girls stand in ABC order. I've also stood in height order, age order, birthday order, and the order in which we met the bride.

nuremenosh

I guess I still have a lot of Catholic Schoolgirl in me. I put mine in height order.

Katie8814

I really appreciate all the advice...and some brutal honesty! I thought a lot about what everyone said and I agree, order shouldn't be that big of a deal. All the girls are there for me and my fiance, not for a show. I just need to focus on the positive...less than three weeks to go. Thank you everyone!