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fiance's sister-best (wo)man or bridesmaid?

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my fiance has one sister. i plan to have my sister and my best friend as my bridesmaids. what is better-have all 3 girls stand next to me or have my 2 maids w/ me  & fiance's sister next to him? the odd number is bugging me! or i'm just being completely anal. thoughts?thanks!
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    Don't worry about numbers. It's really up to you (or more appropriately, your fiance). Female groom's attendants are quite common and totally normal, as are uneven bridal parties. Either choice is fine, so talk to your FI and decide what you want to do.
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    Yea, you're being a little anal. It's okay though; my DH and MIL were also anal about the idea of uneven sides. But we had them anyway. And everyone survived :) Chances are this seems so unfamiliar because you worry you've never seen it. But I'll bet you anything you've not only seen pictures of an uneven WP, you've been to a wedding with an uneven WP. I will also bet you didn't realize it was uneven so that's why this seems uncomfortable. But the fact that you didn't notice should show you how much it doesn't matter.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    ^I've never seen uneven sides, either and I never thought much about it. I do, however, my friend and her fiance discussing things like, "If you decide to have her as a bridesmaid, let me know and I'll go and ask someone else to be a groomsmen, too." It bothered me what I was hearing and I wasn't sure why.  After hanging around these boards I know why I was bothered... they were picking and choosing people as if it were a strategy game or something. It was very weird. Don't worry about numbers or gender... are you close to her? Is he close to her? Those are the more important questions to be asking yourselves.. way more important than questions about numbers or genders.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    WPs are not about symmetry. They are about having the people you care the most stand with you on your wedding day. So have your FSIL on your side. Have her on his side. It doesn't really matter in the big scheme of things.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • ffmaidffmaid
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    What does FI want her to be. Sides do not have to be even genders do not have to be seperate. It is Fi's sister and thus his choice
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  • peachkinspeachkins
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    I believe that you should have who you want to in your wedding party whether sides are even or not.  However, I also don't have a problem with having those close to the groom on his side and vice versa.  I do think that considering you have a small WP and he has no one else on his side, it would be nice to have his sister stand next to him.
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