Mom is my MOH..need ideas

CANDEE43

Okay.  So my mom is my Matron of Honor.  I'm a bit stumped as to what she should wear.  The BM dresses are an eggplant color and they are tea length, I don't have another color I am going with.  The decorations are all white with eggplant accents so the my MOH can't wear "the other color" because there is no other color.  I want her to stand out though as the MOH.   Should I just have her wear a diff dress, same color?  or same dress but floor length?  maybe a diff shade of purple..like lavender?  I dont know.  The ceremony and reception are outside so that's why i chose tea length dresses.Also because my mom is my MOH and also my mom, I'm not sure if she should have a bouquet or corsage since my FIs mom will have a corsage?Okay, and lastly, I'm not sure about our formal pics since my mom is a part of my BP she will be in the BP pics but not my dad...is that weird?  any ideas?Either way she is staying my MOH I'm just asking for help on ideas about those issues.Thanks in advance. =]

blackfire5th

I'm not really sure, but this is what I would do. I would have her in the same color, but a different dress, maybe something more mother of the bride ish. I think it would be nice for her to wear a crosage for the reception. When my mom got married, she said there was a crosage that she pulled out of her bouquet at the end of the day. Maybe you can do something like that for your Mom. I think it would be nice for you Mom to also hold a bouquet during the ceremony if the other bm are, but you can talk to your Mom and just decide what she would like. I would have her in both the bridal party pics (without Dad) and in the family photos.

CANDEE43

Thanks so much...that was along the lines that I was thinking so it was a confirmation for me! =]Appreciate your input thanks again!

Simply Fated

I like the idea of sticking with the same color and changing up the dress a bit, either the length or the style. Either way is a good idea.. ask her which she would prefer. I would personally give her a bouquet, but that's really up to you. Maybe both? Or would that be a flower overkill? I dont think it's weird if your mom is in the bridal party pics and not your dad. Maybe you could include your dad in some of them, and then when you go to choose which pictures you like, you can have one of each. (or more of each, but you know what I mean, lol)I always like to suggest asking the person in question what they think.. for all you know your mom has her heart set on wearing a corsage and a tea length dress at her daughters wedding, lol.

phoeny_moonstar

Same dress diff length w/ a jacket maybe? I don't think it weird that your mom is your MOH I think that's awesome, and if people question it I would say "My mom is my best friend so of COURSE I picked her as my MOH."

BelhurstBride

Why not ask her what she wants to wear and if she wants a corsage?

CANDEE43

Thanks ladies, I appreciate all your input! =]BTW I did ask her what she wants and she said it doesn't matter to her, she just wants me to be happy so she wants me to pick what I want.

peachkins

I think it's perfectly fine to have her in a dress that is a different color and/or style from the other BMs.  I would probably just ask her, if she doesn't want the same color, to choose a color that will complement the other BMs.  Since she is in the BP, I would go ahead and get her a bouquet.  I honestly think either way you would be fine, but that's my preference.  And I don't think it will be odd to have your mother in some pictures without your dad.  I think it's nice that your mom is your MOH.