Sort of WP-related: He's not my type

bablingbrooke

One of my BMs is about to get engaged to a guy she swore she wouldn't like because he 'wasn't her type". I married a man who definitely wasn't my type--11 years my senior, from a different cultural background, opposite personality type. Had you told me the day I met him that we'd be married 3 years later, I would have laughed at you. Likewise, I definitely wasn't DH's type. We went out to dinner once before we started dating and he detailed his ideal woman; none of the factors applied to me even remotely. But we're both very happy with our choice now. This article captures very well how you can go from "not in a million years with that guy" to "I can't imagine being with anyone else but him": http://www.yourtango.com/2006182/unnatural-selection.html Anyone else marry some one who was not your "type"?

KappaK

I am totally in the same boat!  My FI and I are complete opposites.  He is quiet I am loud, he is a neat freak and I a not so much.  He likes anime and sci-fi.  I think our differences are what keep the relationship interesting.  It is never boring, and we expose each other to experiences we would have probably never tried were it not for each other.

Leah&Christian09

I remember when H and I first met. I really thought the whole thing was a fling. He's 8 years older than me and had such a different life-style than I did, not to mention he lived in a completely different city. I remember talking about it with my BFF. I told her that he would never be Mr. Right, but he made a great Mr. Right Now.

aerinpegadrak

FI is totally my type. The only thing that I wouldn't have figured was being drawn to someone who isn't as well-read as me, but he's still very intelligent and articulate. (Plus he's seen way more movies than I have, so it balances out.) I'm not sure if I'm his type, though. He dated a lot before me, but never seriously, so I'm not sure if he has a type.

CTGirl30

I wasn't sure about FI after I left after our first date! He wasn't my usual type, but it turned out to be the best thing ever because clearly my usual type hadn't worked out previously. ;-) He was everything I never knew I needed and wanted and I am so, so, so glad we went on a second date. :-)

tiffgriffin7

My FI definitely wasn't my usual type either, we're not totally different but I actually thought he was kind of nerdy! That changed really quick though and we got engaged after 1 year! We are totally perfect for each other.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Leah - My FI is also 8 years older and was living in a different country when we met. And then eventually he moved here, mainly because of me. I have several "types" and he's kind of one. Although he's really kind of dorky and I dated a couple musicians/"cool" guys before him, who had lots of tattoos. Somehow, though, I always knew I'd marry a guy with dark hair and blue eyes. And I'm definitely his type.

stahlop

FI was definitely not my type looks-wise.  I'd always dated really skinny, tall, non-hairy guys.  FI looks like Jack Black.  It was his personality that blew me away.  I saw his profile online (with a skinnier, but not super skinny like I used to date) and completely fell in love with his bio.   I knew he was the one based on his personality.  And luckily, I love him for his looks too.

stina93446

ME!!!! My sister gave a speech at our wedding and she said that he was not what every expected. My type was always my own age, pretty boy, with mediocre education. I always dated white guys with a thing for surfing. Husband is Jewish, a techie, owns his own company, is 9 years my senior, and went to MIT. Parents were thrilled....lol

LarissaAnn

H was totally my type, but I thought he was just for fun anyway, 'cause he's 8 years younger. And he smokes, while I'm allergic to cigarette smoke! But I've always had a thing for troublemakers, which was him as a kid. If we were in the same high school at the same time, he'd definitely have been my crush. Our first date was 14 hours, and that was pretty much that - we were near inseparable 'til he proposed less than 4 months later. I guess I'm somewhat his type too. He's dated a lot of different chicks, but usually educated and sometimes older. He knew my age when he asked me out, and it didn't even make him blink. The one big thing (besides cigarettes) is that his favorite thing in life is scuba diving... and my only phobia is deep water. Go figure.

aggiebug

haha We dated for a month several years ago and he broke it off because I was too "silly". We stayed friends and my mom kept asking when we would date again. I got so mad at her telling her NEVER!! I am still just as "silly" but now that is his favorite attribute go figure.

megk8oz

Not sure whether or not FI was my type when we first met. We met on a double date ... while we were with our then-SOs. So the first time we met, we were both in the "That's off-limits" state of mind. But we did always get along really well. So much so that when the 2 relationships ended (His was at 5 years, mine was at 2.5 years) around the same time, we started hanging out just to "grieve" together. It slowly turned into more ... 9 months later we were dating, 2 years after that we got engaged, and we're getting married right before what would have been our 4th dating anniversary.