So I just had lunch with a good friend of mine. Love this girl to death, actually would have probably asked her to be a BM if I didn't go the "family only" route to avoid hurting feelings (She's been one of my "bff's" since I was 12). She recently got engaged and with my wedding getting closer, she LOVES "talking shop".So we were talking about BMs and things like that. She said she knows she's already picking her and her FI's sister, and she already has friends in mind (But she has not asked anybody yet) ... but the wedding is at least 2 years away at this point. So I started off by saying "Seriously, you have plenty of time to pick people, and you only need like 4-6 months to get dresses, so don't ask anybody until you're closer to that point in time". And she seemed to "get" that. And I also said that one of the really awesome perks to "keeping it small", is it's a lot easier to coordinate schedules if you wanna get people together to buy the dress or something.So she says "Yeah, you're right ... I already know I'm going to have problems, cuz you know I'm going to just ask so many people ... but it's ok, if they don't show up at something, they're just getting kicked out then. I don't need to deal with that".In an attempt to "regroup". I tried to say "Well, you know, it shouldn't be too hard, just don't ask people to do a lot. Like, with my girls, I've been very 'just get the dress and show up wearing it' ... it's made my life so much easier. I'd be ripping my hair out if I tried to micro-manage".Then she says "Oh, you know me, I'm not real demanding (actually, she REALLY isn't, she genuinely is a sweet, laid-back person) ... but everybody that's in it BETTER be prepared to spend money to take dance lessons, because my BP is going to do the "Thriller" dance ... my wedding isn't going to be 'sappy' it's going to be fun!"So, since I didn't want to touch that with a 10 foot pole, I just said "Just make sure when you guys get deeper into the planning that you come to TK for help. They may not always tell you what you want to hear, but they give great advice!"
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