I've been lurking around and enjoying reading all the advise given on this board and others. Just now I was wandering around some areas and found the bridesmaid's section. I was suprised to find lists of duties for BMs and MOHs. I just found it intesting that TK is giving out these lists, and then everyone here says that the only "duty" is to buy the dress and show up. I thought it would be interesting to get other people's takes on this.