WHO TO INVITE TO MY BRIDAL SHOWER?

lweiner87

Ok so here is the deal.. I am having a very small wedding and my friends SUCK. so therefore I am only inviting like two of my friends. My question is, is it not right to invite people to my bridal shower or bachelorette party that arent invited to the wedding? Because otherwise my bridal shower and bachelorette stuff are only going to have me and like 5 other people. lol. So I am confused on how to play it. HELP ME FELLOW BRIDES!

bablingbrooke

Please stop yelling.  Please.  Over a party, of all things, no need to yell.

You can't invite anyone to the shower who isn't also invited to the wedding.  That's wedding planning 101.  If that means only 5 people, that means only 5 people.  The only real exception to this is if people at your office decide to throw you a shower of their own volition during lunch or something.  

bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE]Ok so here is the deal.. I am having a very small wedding and my friends SUCK. so therefore I am only inviting like two of my friends. My question is, is it not right to invite people to my bridal shower or bachelorette party that arent invited to the wedding? Because otherwise my bridal shower and bachelorette stuff are only going to have me and like 5 other people. lol. So I am confused on how to play it. HELP ME FELLOW BRIDES!
Posted by lweiner87[/QUOTE]<div>Also, since your friends all SUCK it speaks <strong>volumes</strong> about <strong>your</strong> character that you don't want them at your wedding but you don't mind milking them for gifts or parties.  </div>

heyimbren

OP, you are correct. You cannot invite people to your shower (or any pre-wedding event) who are not invited to the wedding.

That's one of the things about having a small wedding: you have small pre-wedding parties too.

What does this have to do with your friends who "suck"? It isn't connected to anything in your OP at all.

MyNameIsNot

If your friends suck, they probably aren't throwing you a shower anyway.

TheCranberry

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[QUOTE]OP, you are correct. You cannot invite people to your shower (or any pre-wedding event) who are not invited to the wedding. That's one of the things about having a small wedding: you have small pre-wedding parties too. <strong>What does this have to do with your friends who "suck"? It isn't connected to anything in your OP at all.</strong>
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

I think she was saying that her friends SUCK too much to be invited to her wedding but not so much that she won't invite them to her wedding shower.  I guess it's a fine line they're walking.

mgietler76

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[QUOTE]If your friends suck, they probably aren't throwing you a shower anyway.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

Ha! This

megk8oz

Shower/Bach Party invite = wedding invite.


If somebody really isn't good enough for you to buy them a chicken dinner, then they most certainly aren't good enough to buy you a blender and take you trolling for strippers.

gottahavashorti

So... you don't want to pay for them to attend your wedding, and you don't even like them, but you keep them around anyway and want them to pay for gifts and drinks for you?  Have I got that right?

Is there something in the water today?

mbcdefg

Why don't you just hire people off Craigslist to attend your parties, so that you look more popular than you really are?

Or, why don't you just sit back and wait to see if you even receive a shower or a bachelorette party? If your friends are as awful as you say they are, they probably won't want to throw them for you anyway. And if nobody throws them for you, then you don't get them at all, since you're not entitled to them and since it's beyond rude for the bride to throw her own shower/bachelorette.

aerinpegadrak

If all of your friends suck, then maybe the common denominator is you?  Just a thought.

deepcovejackie

You actually don't invite anyone to your shower or bachelorette.  These are parties held in your honour by your close friends or family.  They do the inviting.  And yes, people don't get invited to pre-wedding parties unless they are invited to the wedding.

banana468

Ditto Retread.  That was a bit harsh to the OP.

And ditto what she said too.

Linz10882

I think some of these posters need to move on over to the snarky brides forum! lol.  Did everyone wake up on the wrong side of the bed?!  No need to be so nasty and judgemental. 

Anyhow, as other people said, people who aren't invited to the wedding shouldn't be invited to the shower, bach party, etc.  It's OK to have a small shower/bachelorette party, don't worry!  It's best to have people who are close to you anyway   

Manwaithiel

To be fair, this past week has been full of the brides saying how much their friends suck and then turning around and wanting presents, parties, and $300 dresses.

So if everyone is ready to jump down someone's throat, cut them some slack. It's been a rough week.

heyimbren

I don't think everyone was so harsh, Linz. Some were, but not all and I dislike generalizations.

OP, I hope you worked things out.