Question...

bdulli13

I've been reading through the "Wedding Party" board, and a few posts have been about "firing" wedding party members.

Pardon me while I respond with

W.
T.
F.

Is this legit? Do people really think you can "FIRE" people who are doing something for you out of love and kindness? I can think of so few things that could even make me THINK of asking someone who I have already invited to stand with me not to. Seriously. Can count them on one hand. Maybe I don't even need the whole hand. Drugs. Abuse. Sleeping with the groom.

Yeah, that's about it.

Aren't your WP members supposed to be people you are so close to you couldn't fathom "firing" them?

So tell me. Tell me, if you have had to request that one of your wedding party members step down, what was the cause? And really, does it all come down to you jumping the gun and asking the wrong people/asking them too far in advance?

bablingbrooke

I like you

tidetravel

Now I see why Stage invited you here.  You have a good head on your shoulders.  Please stick around.

gottahavashorti

I might try to get fired the next time I'm in a WP.  I hear it comes with a pretty decent severance package.

frogurt814

My favorite was the girl that said "I fired one of my BMs."  What?  Your wedding is not The Apprentice.  You can't fire people. 

tldh

Please. please, please stick around.  We need more sanity on this board.

tidetravel

Also, DH and I had a celtc handfasting, if you want to check out our wedding bio.

ETA:  apparently when I put in the new ticker, I took the link out of my siggy.

www. tidetravel.weebly.com

bdulli13

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_question-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:137e3d08-8555-4965-b591-dc593c80608aPost:3c293a22-5b31-4f97-8d60-ba8d56ed42dd">Re: Question...</a>:
[QUOTE]Also, DH and I had a celtc handfasting, if you want to check out our wedding bio. 
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Definitely will! Thanks  ;-)

bdulli13

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_question-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:137e3d08-8555-4965-b591-dc593c80608aPost:80d94d13-ae9e-4ae8-8a93-ac9c773ae63b">Re: Question...</a>:
[QUOTE]My favorite was the girl that said "I fired one of my BMs."  What?  Your wedding is not The Apprentice.  You can't fire people. 
Posted by frogurt814[/QUOTE]

I'm picturing sitting at a large conference table with my WP pointing fingers and saying "You're fired!" (and giggling)

BTW, nice to meet you all :-)

KaylaSue19

I hope my link will cooperate

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards?plckForumPage=ForumDiscussion&plckDiscussionId=Cat%3aSpecial+Topic+Wedding+BoardsForum%3a357Discussion%3ad9455107-4ca7-415e-b1ad-bc8e05153b93&plckCategoryCurrentPage=0&sid=sitelife.theknot.com

Its "I changed my mind" under "Moms and Maids" in the special topics.

Some major veteran input is needed over there. A good 20 crazy bridezilla newbies, all validating with stories about kicking people out.

bdulli13

It was a second post by her, after reading a few others posted by different Knotties, that actually prompted my question originially.

Say what? You have gotten close over the last FIVE YEARS and it didn't occur to you to ask her to be in your wedding party in the first place, which I am sure was chosen somewhere between now and five years ago? Clearly little thought was put into that.

Hm. I'm waiting for her next post. "I think I want to replace my fiance with another guy I've gotten close to in the last five years. Should I ask him to step down?"

I'm going to h***.   :-X

trix1223

Nice to see another Jersey girl with common sense around here.    Stick around, please!  Welcome to the board.

bdulli13

I have three-- one is my SIL (lives in TN), one is my future SIL (lives in PA), and my MOH is my best friend of... 12 years? About two months after our engagement, MOH announced that she was moving out of the country. Everyone keeps saying, "Oh my God, what are you going to do?!"

Um... get married?

She is still fully committed to being my MOH in all the ways I need her to be, i.e. showing up and looking pretty. Lucky me, she still wants to throw all the parties, etc too (she is actually REALLY stoked about being MOH and is taking her "position" very seriously, and all the duties SHE feels it entails. Consider me spoiled.)

Any "support" I need, will be given by my fiance. Next, my mom. If it gets so bad that I actually needed "support" to walk down the aisle, I would have to seriously reconsider the wedding. Like the Beatles said, "Love is all we need". And that's all your WP needs to provide.

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_question-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:137e3d08-8555-4965-b591-dc593c80608aPost:cca0f839-c125-4e61-a10a-b020b02dee1a">Re: Question...</a>:
[QUOTE]I might try to get fired the next time I'm in a WP.  I hear it comes with a pretty decent severance package.
Posted by gottahavashorti[/QUOTE]
Bwahaha!  The current storyline in Apartment 3-G has two of the girls, who've been asked to be BMs by someone they just met (the FI of a guy they both dated, I think), planning to be so very, very bad at it that no one ever asks them again.