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rica0308

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bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE]So my soon to be husband and I had very great friends and they recently just got married. However, after they married they ended up having a large issue. The husband is our best man and we continue to speak and see him... however the bridesmaid has stopped talking to me. I have reached out and everything. I do not know what to do and I am not sure if I should go on planning my wedding without her or what? HELP
Posted by rica0308[/QUOTE]
Your friends are having marriage problems that are serious enough for her to think you've chosen her husband over her, and all you can think about is whether you should plan your wedding without her help?<div>
</div><div>Focus on the friendship here.  Be a friend first.  Your wedding is yours to plan--you don't need her holding your hand through it.  She's going through a rough time, maybe she needs some space.  Let her know that you're here if she ever wants to talk.  Don't hassle her about wedding stuff.  Plan with your FI, which you should be doing anyway.</div>

tidetravel

Plan your wedding as you normally would.  You asked her to be a BM.  Do not kick her out of the wedding party.  If she decides that she doesn't want to be in it later on, due to whatever issues the two of you have, then that's her choice.  As of right now, plan on her to be a BM.  Worst case scenario is that she drop out, and you're down a BM on the wedding day.  It's not something you necessarily need to plan for.  You're not going to replace her, because that would be a slight to whomever you asked to take her place.

mbcdefg

If she wants to be a BM, she'll get her dress and show up to the wedding.

If not, she won't.