Too many men!

danielle_dano

My FI wants to have 8 men stand up with him (family and close friends).  I only have 5 that i would like to stand up with me.  Im not crazy about having uneven sides, is there any way to convince him to drop some of his men? 

gottahavashorti

[QUOTE]My FI wants to have 8 men stand up with him (family and close friends).  I only have 5 that i would like to stand up with me.  Im not crazy about having uneven sides, is there any way to convince him to drop some of his men? 
Posted by danielle_dano[/QUOTE]
No.  Learn to love the uneven sides.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]My FI wants to have 8 men stand up with him (family and close friends).  I only have 5 that i would like to stand up with me.  Im not crazy about having uneven sides, is there any way to convince him to drop some of his men? 
Posted by danielle_dano[/QUOTE]

<div>Why do so many brides think it is ok to use human beings a props?</div><div>
</div><div>To answer you question, no, there is not.  </div>

filaw

People here will tell you, pretty much not.

I'll say, give yourself some time, and *really* think about  it.  I think if you give yourself some time to step back from the situation, you'll find you won't mind the uneven sides so much after all.  Think about the feeling of the day, and him wanting all the people he cares about with him, without having to exclude any of them.

If you still *really* can't let it go, sounds like something you really need to talk out with your FI.  Tell him how you feel, listen to how he feels.  It might be that just expressing your concerns and hearing his POV will help.

bablingbrooke

Hell to the no.  How would you like it if he told you that you had to drop three friends because the numbers weren't working?

The look of the WP is far less important than who is in it.  Please don't lose sight of that.

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]My FI wants to have 8 men stand up with him (family and close friends).  I only have 5 that i would like to stand up with me.  Im not crazy about having uneven sides, is there any way to convince him to drop some of his men? 
Posted by danielle_dano[/QUOTE]

<a href="http://www.craigslist.org/">www.craigslist.org</a>  <----  hire BM stand-ins so that he won't look more popular than you.

trix1223

Reverse the situation for a moment.  You have 8 BM and he has 5 GM.  He comes to you and says "You have to drop 3 of your BMs".

How do you feel?  What makes you think he would feel differently than you would?

mrabbito

ha haa.....
i learned this lesson the hard way as well from this forum.  the ladies don't take nicely to the idea of dropping/adding to make even sides.  the popular answer is to just keep the sides uneven and it will be said over and over in nice, and not so nice ways. 

banana468

Remember, these are GM, not decals.

Please listen to the other ladies who say that the uneven sides just aren't a big deal.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]My FI wants to have 8 men stand up with him (family and close friends).  I only have 5 that i would like to stand up with me.  Im not crazy about having uneven sides, is there any way to convince him to drop some of his men? 
Posted by danielle_dano[/QUOTE]
Not unless you want to give him very good evidence and reason to drop you as well.

valeriemay85

I have 8 bridesmaids and FI has 6 groomsmen.. You could always have the 1st 3 guys walk out with FI so that way the last 5 would pair up then it would seem more even.

lalap69

Did you lurk even a little bit?

NO, it's not okay to ask him to drop anyone.  Get over the uneven sides thing.

mattycam

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[QUOTE]I have 8 bridesmaids and FI has 6 groomsmen.. You could always have the 1st 3 guys walk out with FI so that way the last 5 would pair up then it would seem more even. :)
Posted by valeriemay85[/QUOTE]

That's a good idea!