Choosing MOH: 1 of 2 sisters? or BF?

srg47

I'm going crazy here. Every day I think I've made a decision, but then I go to ask the person and I freak out.

I have two sisters. My oldest sister is married. She had both of us as bridesmaids and her BF as MOH. I'm much closer to my other sister and am trying to decide between her and my BF for my MOH.

There are so many factors: BF is in town and is very excited to start the planning with me, while the sister lives far away. If my oldest sister chose neither of us, should I follow suit? I like to think my BF and I will be friends for a very long time, but my sister will always be my sister no matter what.

I can't choose two in this case, because that would be unfair to my oldest sister. I love them both and don't know what to do. Any thoughts?

gottahavashorti

Have you considered option 3: No maid of honor, call them all Bridesmaid or Honor Attendant?

Licia&Wayne

I vote option 3 as well. You clearly don't want to choose on the off chance you offend someone.

Just don't have a MOH. Everything works the same and there's no "ranking" among your sisters and friend.

bablingbrooke

"I love you both too much to choose between you, so I will not have a MOH."

They can split up the ceremony "duties": One holds your bouquet during the ceremony and stands closest to you; one holds the rings; one signs the license; one gives the toast; etc.

deb84

I agree that option 3 is the best bet here.  Have them all be bridesmaid and then like pp said split up the tasks, one sign the marriage license, one stand next to you and one give the toast.  (The one who stands next to you will also hold your flowers and the ring(s) or just have the BM hold both rings)  It really can work out well, with no hurt feelings and little stress. GOOD LUCK!