WTH...

NatandIsaac

is an honorary bridesmaid?

I have never heard of such a thing before I started reading these boards, and I just can't figure it out. Isn't bridesmaid an honorary role anyhow?

trix1223

Yes, you're 100% right.  Some people come here asking to make friends (who don't make the varsity bridesmaid team) "honorary" bridesmaids, because then they'll feel loved, special, and included.  C'mon.....isn't that exactly how you'd feel? 

aerinpegadrak

Honorary attendants are those who cannot be present, usually because they are deceased, deployed, or otherwise unable to attend.  A lot of people use the term incorrectly to create a pity position for someone who they want to "include," but don't like enough to have as a bridesmaid.

bablingbrooke

There is no such thing.  You are not wrong.

banana468

I'd go with it when you have someone extremely close who can't be there. But it's not OK when you're calling someone an honorary BM and she's sitting right behind the actual BMs.

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wth?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:1b7474c1-a8ca-4fd6-b0a0-9d45a58feb3dPost:1714b480-c27b-484e-bd39-e2761ee5455d">Re: WTH...</a>:
[QUOTE]That's another reason why it's pointless....the person IS NOT THERE. How, then, is this an honor for them? They can't enjoy it. It means nothing.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
Well, the title of bridesmaid is supposed to recognize your very closest friend.  So giving them an honorary bridesmaid title means that they're still one of your very closest friends even though they cannot attend.  For the deceased, I think it's usually used for those who passed away after being asked, and so who really should have been there.  You're not going to list a sibling who died when you were 4 along with the WP.

mysticl

I've only seen one "honorary" BM.  But they didn't call her that, she was just the Maid of Honor.  She was supposed to be at the wedding, had her dress, and got deployed. 

Simply Fated

In my opinion, either they are a bridesmaid or they aren't. If they aren't there, can't they still hold the title of bridesmaid?

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wth?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:1b7474c1-a8ca-4fd6-b0a0-9d45a58feb3dPost:ace89b60-1931-4d76-a632-b407faccb581">Re: WTH...</a>:
[QUOTE]Jenna Bush bought into this crap with her "House Party."  Her mother, the First Lady, should have known better.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
wait.... a House Party? What's that?