Bridesmaids Gifts

ASHLEY2528

Hello Ladies!!!

I am so excited for my March 2nd 2013 wedding- its coming quick! I wanted your opinon if you were a bridesmaid in a wedding if you would like this as a gift.

I am a stylist for a boutique jewelry company (stella & dot) and I was thinking when we got closer to the wedding I would have cute "Bridesmaids and Bling" get together at my house with just the girls in the wedding and myself. I would have them bring their dresses and let them pick out 1-2 pieces to wear on the wedding day and then they will be able to keep them after (they will get their own brand new items not my used samples) Do you think this is a good idea?

I am also getting their hair and make up done which I know doesnt count as a gift- I also made them all gift boxes with a card "Will you be my bridesmaids" with a bridesmaids shirt, champagne flute, and little goodies and details about the wedding day. I will also be getting them robes for the day of to wear while we get ready together..

Thanks!!!

mbcdefg

I don't think that, "Wear this to my wedding but then you get to keep it afterward!" really counts as a bridesmaid gift. Even if they're picking it out themselves. Because they're primarily picking it out with their dress in mind, notsomuch for everyday use, and also because they're choosing their own gifts rather than you picking something out especially for them.

And if you want an honest opinion, the idea of giving them stuff from the company you work for just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I don't think it's wrong or tacky, per se, but it just feels weird to me. I assume you mean that you'd pay for the jewelry/let them have it for free, which is nice, but it still feels to me like you (the collective "you", meaning anyone who'd be doing this with a similar business thing - I'm not talking about you in particular) would be mainly doing it as a business venture rather than picking out thoughtful gifts for your friends as a thank you for putting their time/money into your wedding. 
 
I'm having a hard time explaining how I feel about that, and I really don't mean any offense. I don't think it's an awful thing if you DO decide to do this, but if you're looking for an opinion on if you should do it then I would vote No. Sorry.

ASHLEY2528

No offense taken! That is why I posted because I wasnt sure!!! Maybe I will rethink this and add something else personal for them! Thanks very much!!

TiffannieF

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[QUOTE]Hello Ladies!!! I am so excited for my March 2nd 2013 wedding- its coming quick! I wanted your opinon if you were a bridesmaid in a wedding if you would like this as a gift. I am a stylist for a boutique jewelry company (stella & dot) and I was thinking when we got closer to the wedding I would have cute "Bridesmaids and Bling" get together at my house with just the girls in the wedding and myself.<strong> I would have them bring their dresses </strong>and let them pick out 1-2 pieces to wear on the wedding day and then they will be able to keep them after (they will get their own brand new items not my used samples) Do you think this is a good idea? I am also getting their hair and make up done which I know doesnt count as a gift- I also made them all gift boxes with a card "Will you be my bridesmaids" with a bridesmaids shirt, champagne flute, and little goodies and details about the wedding day. I will also be getting them robes for the day of to wear while we get ready together.. :) Thanks!!!
Posted by ASHLEY2528[/QUOTE]

I would not make them bring their dresses...they'll know what the dresses look like when they order then and when they get them in.

Anything that is required to wear on the wedding day is not a gift.

I wouldn't get them shirts that say "Bridesmaids" that's "useful" for a couple hours only on one day.

I think you have super sweet intentions and a lot of your goodies sound pretty awesome (I know I would feel pampered).  Will everybody in your WP enjoy jewelry?  I know not every girl really does. 

The best gifts are gifts where you shopped as if it were their birthday.  That way each gift is personalized to the friends personality and interests.

rosesarered1

I think that's a really nice idea! Stella and Dot stuff isn't cheap junk, so this is a very nice idea.  Plus you sound like a really thoughtful bride.  I don't know if they need their dresses, but I'm sure whatever you decide will be great.

ASHLEY2528

Thank you ladies so much for your help!!! I really appreciate it!