Asking your bridesmaids

Dayn070104

Does anyone have any fun and unique ways in which they asked their bridesmaids to participate in their wedding?

HisCB

my cousin and i were drinking/camping having fun, and i was going to ask her that weekend but hadnt yet, she asked if i had picked yet, i said yes but i havent asked them all yet, then said "im sure WHOEVER you pick will be completely honored, and feel very loved, and i know you cant pick everyone, so i just want to let you know that if you cannot pick someone, she will be very understanding, and i am sure she would love to help you with your wedding, no matter what, because she loves you and supports you, which is why she would be so honored to be in your wedding, and im sure she wouldnt even mind an orange dress"

i just smiled and nodded and didnt ask her that weekend.

then when i asked if she was free to go bmdress shopping, she asked if she got a dress or if she was just coming or moral support. i told her it would be mean of me to make her get fitted for a dress, order it and then make her stand up naked at the front of the room next to me.

she was very happy.

HisCB

my other idea was to make bridesmaids tshirts and then attatch a card on top of "bridesmaid" that said "will you be my... so they read the card, then lift it up and see the shirt is for them. but i was slow at making the shirts, so i just gave them to them anyway.

mbcdefg

I just asked in person and didn't make a big deal over it. I'm not sentimental or into big productions, and neither are they, so something cutesy wouldn't have worked for us.

frogurt814

I didn't do anything special either.  Just asked them when I saw them.  I asked one over the phone because she and I hadn't been able to find a time to get together.

CTGirl30

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[QUOTE]Does anyone have any fun and unique ways in which they asked their bridesmaids to participate in their wedding?
Posted by Dayn070104[/QUOTE]

Not everything related to your wedding needs to be a big production and if someone else has done it before, it's not unique.

I'm personally a fan of the simple and heartfelt when it comes to this stuff. I went to dinner individually with 3 of my 4 BMs and asked them at the end of the meal. The 4th girl, I asked over the phone.  It was a simple, "Would you do me the honor of being a bridesmaid in my wedding?" No big production. Everyone was excited, there was plenty of excitement and hugging that followed.

deb84

I am giving them greeting cards that ask them.  (americangreetings.com)  This being said I agree this doesn't work for everyone's personality.  I however send greeting cards ALL the time.  (Seriously, Thanksgiving cards, St. Patrick's Day cards, thinking of you cards, etc.) So this is very ME and I don't think my bridesmaids would expect anything less from me.  However these cards I am not mailing.  I am planning to go out with each one and give her the card at some point in the night.  There are all sorts of ways to ask...it can be as simple as ASKING.  Do what fits your personality. 

trix1223

Remember that the honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're ask.  Call them up.  Go out for coffee.  It doesn't have to be cute, clever, unique, memorable, one-of-a-kind, to be special.

Asking them will be special, because you're asking.  And you don't have to ask with a "keepsake".

CT324

I like this poem you can print this out and put it in a picutre frame with a picture of you and your friend.

The day, the dress
The bride, the groom
The joy, the tears
Will all come so soon

Professing true love
To my husband-to-be
With family and friends
All watching me

I hope the sun will
Be shining down,
Keep your fingers crossed
That I'll fit in my gown…

But there's just one more thing
that there needs to be…
and that's to have you
Standing with me!


Will you be my bridesmaid?

ashleymhinkle1

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[QUOTE]I like this poem you can print this out and put it in a picutre frame with a picture of you and your friend. The day, the dress The bride, the groom The joy, the tears Will all come so soon Professing true love To my husband-to-be With family and friends All watching me I hope the sun will Be shining down, Keep your fingers crossed That I'll fit in my gown… But there's just one more thing that there needs to be… and that's to have you Standing with me! Will you be my bridesmaid?
Posted by CT324[/QUOTE]
I used this poem! I made a photo card at walgreens (got it for free!!) The front was a picture of BM in the colors I want and the inside had the poem and I customized it with their name. then at the bottom i put p.s. I promise not to make you wear an ugly dress! When i gave them the card i also got them their favorite treat! my FSIL loves this cupcake shop so i got her a few of those & my friend is on the weight watcher diet so i got her a WW dessert and they all cried and loved it! I wanted to make them feel special and i only spent around $6 for the card and treat for each of them. it's something they will keep forever and always remember!

marissa_claire

I at least had two - my high school friend and brother's wife - that were coming along with Mom and I to shop for my wedding dress, so when my mom stopped out of the car I just asked them how they'd feel about trying on bridesmaid's dresses.