Let me just start by saying that I absolutely agree with the fact that no one in the wedding party has any responsibilities other than wearing the appropriate attire and showing up the day of.
With that said, my sister (MOH) is driving me crazy! She offers to help and we make plans to meet up, and then she bails on me last minute. This has been happening more and more. All of the girls wanted to get together to help me make invitations, she agrees to come, and she bails. She offers to go to my alterations appointment with me, and she bails. She makes plans with me to go look at shoes, and she bails. It's not the fact that she hasn't done much, it just bothers me so much when someone makes plans to do something and then they flake out at the last minute with excuse after excuse. It's always a different excuse every time! I mean if she doesn't want to go, then just tell me you don't want to go, it won't hurt my feelings.
The other thing that bothers me is my FI, as well as the other bridesmaids, have been asking me why she is even still in the wedding party. That just hurts. I would never in a million years kick anyone out of the wedding party, let alone my sister. Yeah she hasn't been showing up for things but like I said, she doesn't have to. I explained that to my FI and the bridesmaids but the only response I get is "Well if it was me she would have been kicked out a long time ago". I think maybe they are just as irked as I am that she has been bailing, but still, no reason to kick her out. All I can do is graciously smile and say that's not something I'm willing to do, she is my sister and I love her and she is staying put. But can she just stop bailing on me last minute all the time?!?! So irritating.