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I dont know how to handle my MoH

Help! Okay so I asked my sister to become my maid of honor and she said yes. Cool one thing went right. I show her my ring she says "eh that's tacky I don't like it" Now I show her some dresses I like for myself. She says there all ugly and she wouldn't be caught dead wearing them. I move on. I show her some ideas for bridesmaid and maid of honor dresses. She hates them all and tells me 1. Red is a hooker color for dresses. And 2. Shell wear the dress for the ceremony but the second we get to the reception she's going to change into a better dress. This bothers me to no end. Cause my fiance and I both wanted a very nice look to our wedding. (My familys a bit wild, we always have funky colored hair, all different peircings, tattoos ect/ While his family is very proper religious fun people) So we want things to be nice for 1 day. So my sister MoH finally says "okay Ill wear the dress to the reception but Im going to be a missrebel bitch the whole time" which my jaw just dropped. my mother yells at her says why would you do this this is ridiculous  ect ect ect my sister MoH states "cause i dont care" Now heres 3 things. One is that I have my MoH and 6 BMs. My sister is the only one who has a problem with anything ive picked out. Two is my wedding isnt until 2012 and im already getting this much grief. And three is that my sister was engaged 7 months ago. Things ended on a rather shitty note. So I know I have to tip toe around her but when is enough enough cause now I have to worry about our wedding day being ruined because she never got one. Im worried about so many things because my sister has never been a mature person. She will hit me swear scream say nasty things to me and others in public without a second thought. I dont need her doing that on this day. Any advice?

p.s. Im sorry if this is filled with errors and horrible spelling Im running on absolutely no sleep for a few days now.
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Re: I dont know how to handle my MoH

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_dont-handle-moh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:24a73a23-db48-4862-a78f-c78199b537e1Post:c9c95873-58a1-439a-a394-f3845f5ae5af">I dont know how to handle my MoH</a>:
    [QUOTE]Help! Okay so I asked my sister to become my maid of honor and she said yes. Cool one thing went right. I show her my ring she says "eh that's tacky I don't like it" Now I show her some dresses I like for myself. She says there all ugly and she wouldn't be caught dead wearing them. I move on. I show her some ideas for bridesmaid and maid of honor dresses. She hates them all and tells me 1. Red is a hooker color for dresses. And 2. Shell wear the dress for the ceremony but the second we get to the reception she's going to change into a better dress. This bothers me to no end. Cause my fiance and I both wanted a very nice look to our wedding. (My familys a bit wild, we always have funky colored hair, all different peircings, tattoos ect/ While his family is very proper religious fun people) So we want things to be nice for 1 day. So my sister MoH finally says "okay Ill wear the dress to the reception but Im going to be a missrebel bitch the whole time" which my jaw just dropped. my mother yells at her says why would you do this this is ridiculous  ect ect ect my sister MoH states "cause i dont care" Now heres 3 things. One is that I have my MoH and 6 BMs. My sister is the only one who has a problem with anything ive picked out. Two is my wedding isnt until 2012 and im already getting this much grief. And three is that my sister was engaged 7 months ago. Things ended on a rather shitty note. So I know I have to tip toe around her but when is enough enough cause now I have to worry about our wedding day being ruined because she never got one. Im worried about so many things because my sister has never been a mature person. She will hit me swear scream say nasty things to me and others in public without a second thought. I dont need her doing that on this day. Any advice? p.s. Im sorry if this is filled with errors and horrible spelling Im running on absolutely no sleep for a few days now.
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  • If your wedding is over a year away (or even two), you don't need to be talking about this with her.  You said that she was recently engaged and it didn't end well.  How would you feel if you and your sister traded places.  I'm sure you'd try to be happy for her but it would tear you up inside.  Your sister isn't as gracious as you may be and you know that.  Don't talk to her about any wedding details for a long while.  Not even if she asks.  Change the subject.

    The dresses don't need to be decided on until about 6 months before your wedding so don't even think about that right now.  Maybe she'll be in a better place when it is time for you to decide on dresses.  Just don't talk to her about all of this and you won't get your feelings hurt.
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  • Why the hell did you ask her to be your MOH in the first place?
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  • Good grief 2012 and your already looking at dresses?
  • Maybe your calendar is misprinted, but it's 2010.  Your wedding isn't for another two years.  Why you're thinking about any of this (or talking to people about it!) is beyond me.  You must be looking for trouble.
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