RELIEVED!!!
She has been nothing but a major drama queen since the moment we told her we were engaged....
First she told me that I couldn't have my one nephew (her oldest son, who I am very close to) in the wedding party if I didn't have my other nephew (her younger son) also. I really didn't want this nephew in the wedding. I was contemplating this with my fiance when my sister told me she had asked him and he didn't want to be in the wedding anyway... I thought this solved the problem...
Then she told my mom that she wouldn't help at all with the wedding if she wasn't in it... Evidently she has decided it is the bridesmaids' jobs to do all the work so if she isn't one she isn't doing any of the work or planning. Now I, at this point hadn't asked ANYONE to be in the bridal party... and I admit I was a little privatly miffed... I didn't know about this philosophy of hers and I had asked her to help address the save the date envelops (she has AWESOME) handwriting and she made a big deal about it... my mom was the one who told me what she had said about not helping... She made a big deal about not yet asking her and kept saying our relationship wasn't what she thought it was and she obviously loved me more than I loved her... I kept telling her that wasn' the case and pointing out that we hasn't asked anyone yet...
After a lengthy discussing with my fiance we decided that while it wasn't what I really wanted it would avoid a lot of family drama if she was in the wedding so I asked her... Keep in mind that having her in the WP meant that we (FH and I ) had to foot the entire bill for her expenses... She is a 40 year old woman who is on a fixed income and is VERY bad with money...
The next big thing came when she didn't like who she was paired with (FH best man).. she wanted to walk with her son (who wanted to walk with my younger sister, and they are similar ages and... there are a million reasons why I had it set up the way I did but she didn't want to listen to any of them...
I have been after her for a month to give me her measurements so I could order her dress... she kept making excuses after excuses... she didn't have a tape measure, she forgot, her neighbor doesn't have a tape measure, the people she is housesitting for don't have a tape measure, her best friend doesn't have a tape measure... No I can't come over and do it she has plans....
So last night she is at our grandma's who was a seamstress, so I called and asked her to have use a measuring tape there... she told me later my gma doesn't have one (LIAR!!!)
Then she says she will call me later and hangs up... when she calls later she says she thinks we should skip having her in the wedding...
I can't believe how relieved I am... even with all the shuffling I had to do... There was no way I was having her replaced and there was no way I was removing a groomsman... I know that even bridal parties aren't necessary but for personal reasons it is important to me... even after all that, I still only feel relief...
Not really any questions... just mostly a vent. I probably should have mentioned that earlier...
I do have one question though... I know that generally the bride's mom should be seated last, but with the recent shuffling my mom is being seated by the officiant (her brother)... so should I have them walk down first and then my FH seat his mom, or do I have my FH and his mom walk down and then my mom and the officiant??? Is this just too weird of a scenario? Any suggestions???