I have 5 bridesmaid's. one is my sister one is my fiance's sister. I am not worried about them buying their dresses because my parents and his parents will take care of it. However the other 3 I know are going to have trouble affording it. One is a mom of a one year old, the other is a full time college student who works one day a week, and the other has two other weddings to be in around the same time as mine and has to buy the dresses for those two weddings also. So here's my question... would it be ok to give them a choice to pick if they want me to get them a gift or help them pay for their dresses??