Ringbearer or jr. groomsman?

sarahbeth1987

Hello! i will be getting married sept.2012. my son will turn 7 that october.... would it be better for him to be a ringbearer or jr.grooms man....my fi said he is fine with whatever i wanted and if i decided to have him as a jr.gm, he figured he could ask his cousin if his 4yrold lil boy would be a ringbearer...any thoughts?? thanks!!!

Osterizer

I don't think it really matters.  You could have him be a groomsman.  It's not like he'd actually be presenting the rings.  That said, you could nix having an RB altogether if he's a GM. 

For our wedding we had my 9-year-old nephew be a GM.  He escorted his 11-year-old sister (a BM) down the aisle.  We opted not to have an RB. 

Simply Fated

Have you asked him or his parents what they think? sidenote, you can always have more than one ring bearer, if that helps.

Simply Fated

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_ringbearer-jr-groomsman?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:2b4476be-19af-4773-a9c3-d31cfc199492Post:4c8da56c-a771-46dd-a3dd-185ac5594fe4">Re: Ringbearer or jr. groomsman?</a>:
[QUOTE]Simply Fated, it's her own son she's asking about.  But yeah, OP, I like the idea of asking him if he has a preference.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]


Ok, how did I miss that? o.0

mattycam

I used my son as the RB and he was 8 at the time.

mbcdefg

Ask you son which title he prefers.

Ditto those who suggested dropping "junior" if you decide to go with Groomsman.

If your son will not be the ring bearer, you don't have to find another kid to use as the ring bearer. If your FI wasn't going to otherwise ask his cousin's kid to be in the wedding, then I wouldn't extend the invite JUST because you wouldn't have a ring bearer, know what I mean? If your FI was going to ask the cousin no matter what, then that's fine, and if your son wants to be a ring bearer then you can easily have two.

Kate61487

I'm with PPs that I'd ask him which he'd like to be.  I don't think 7 is too old to be a RB, but if HE thinks it's a baby job then that's what matters.

I personally don't get all the anit-junior stuff.  He's not a teenager that will be offended by being thought of as a child, he IS a child.  We had a lot of kids in our BP and frankly it was nice to have a distinction so we could get pictures with just our adult bridal party without any awkward "we want all the groomsmen.... that are over 18".  The kids went on to the cocktail hour with their parents while the adult bridal party did some additional pictures.  Likewise we got pictures with just the kids.  I don't believe anyone was offended (our oldest was 11).