Is it wrong of me to have hurt feelings? My sister just recently got engaged and I am so happy for her. They make a great couple. Here is where the problem starts though. This is my sisters 2nd marriage and his first. She apparently had an idea that they were going to be engaged and had already decided on her bridal party and dress color and date and such before she was even engaged. Which is fine except my sister and I are relatively close and I feel I should have been told about this. Her first marriage was not a good one at all and all through it I was there for her. All through the divorce I was there for her. During the single days I was there for her. In the early stage of her and the groom to be relationship i was there for her. Just about anything she asks me to do for her I do. I watch her kids and for a good while we picked them up from school and did their homework with them so she wouldn't have to worry about it.
But now that she is with this guy and getting to know his family I fell like I have been totally cast aside. The only thing she ever calls me for any more is to do something for her. Yes i know the phone works both ways but I am not lying when I say 85% of the time when you call her she does not answer your call or return your phone call. We use to do stuff together all the time and now there is nothing.
So to the problem. My feelings are really hurt. She asked her soon to be sister-in-law to be her matron of honor and her old best friend whom she is not close with nemore to be her maid of honor. Her best friend even told me that she did not thing that was a nice thing to do. My sisters explanation for this is that she didn't want me to be because I was the maid of honor in her first wedding when I was17. I am now 30. Again I say my feelings are really hurt and I feel like all I have done for her and our relationship means nothing to her. I feel like i have been tossed aside. Am i wrong for feeling this way? I know it is her big day so am I just being a cry baby? Please let me know.