uneven bridal party

kim2324

My fiance has 2 more people than I do.. I don't want to add more bridesmaids so what do his 2 extra guys do walking down the aisle and who do they dance with during the bridal party dance? the one groomsman's daughter will be the flower girl, could he walk down with her (i thought that would be kind of cute). but what about the extra guy?



wow i didnt know that it was ok to skip the bp dance... so do my fiance and i just have our dance and thats it?

AdeleDazeem

I'll let the others handle this one...

But, you don't have to have a bridal party dance.  In fact, some people may thank you for skipping it. 

Some would thank you profusely for not having one. 

Licia&Wayne

Well, you could have the groomsmen wait at the altar with the groom, avoiding a paired entrance, and then have a bridesmaid walk out with two men on her arm. You could just have a bridesmaid walk in with two groomsmen if you really want them to come down the aisle.

And as far a a bp dance...oh please reconsider. It's really very awkward for your bridal party even though they probably won't say so. No one likes to dance with someone they don't know while everyone is watching.

stina93446

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[QUOTE]My fiance has 2 more people than I do.. <strong>I don't want to add more bridesmaids</strong> so what do his 2 extra guys do walking down the aisle and who do they dance with during the <strong>bridal party dance</strong>? the one groomsman's daughter will be the flower girl, could he walk down with her (i thought that would be kind of cute). but what about the extra guy?
Posted by kim2324[/QUOTE]

Don't add more people if "you don't want to." Have uneven sides. It's actually quite popular now to have uneven sides. Have 2 gm escort down one bm twice.

Please don't have abp dance. no one likes them. Not even the bp members.They are awkward.

trix1223

I'm going to add my affirmation of pps answers-just so you know that even more people agree with them.

Don't add anyone else.  WPs are not about symmetry.  Just have 2 lucky men escort a beautiful lady.

And 100% SKIP the WP dance.  WPs hate them because they're uncomfortable for them.  Guests hate them because they're boring, boring, and did I mention boring?  Why in heaven's name would you make your guests suffer through watching your best friend from the volleyball team dance with your FIs frat brother who she's never met?

Skip the dance.  Everyone will thank you.  Everyone.

banana468

It's not necessary to add anyone else.  Just keep things as they are. Some lucky gal gets two dudes at the same time.  The rest of us should be so lucky!

And PLEASE just don't do a bridal party dance...ever.

bablingbrooke

Yes, just you and your FI dance and then everyone dances.  

lalap69

Adding my voice to the chorus of those saying you should skip the WP dance.  They're awkward for the WP and often awkward for the WP's SO's that aren't in the WP.  Why make your nearest and dearest engage in that?

If you'd like an alternative, I don't know if this would work for you, but at my sister's wedding we spontaneously ended up doing a family dance.  It was just my parents, my sister and her DH, sister's MIL with her BIL (her husband passed away), my brother and his GF and FI and I on the dance floor.  Everyone was dancing with who they wanted to dance with and it was a sweet family moment.

CTGirl30

Definately okay to skip the BP dance! Nothing is set in stone with weddings - remember that. If you don't want to do something, you can skip it.  Example, I will not be throwing my boquet (reason - not many of my friends are still single and I don't want to embarrass the ones who) and we will also be skipping the garter toss - I find it gross.   We are not having a BP dance, either - Fi and I will do our first dance. We're still debating if we're even going to do parent dances or skip those altogether.

It would be nice if the GMs stood up at the front and the girls walked in one by one...at the recessional, they can do a weave - boy, girl, boy, girl, etc. YOu don't have to pair up people and uneven sides are fine. Definately don't add 2 more people to your side for the sake of having 2 more warm bodies up there.

erollis

This question was very helpful for me because 1. i have an uneven WP 2. I didn't even know there was such a thing as a WP dance.

Thank you OP this post really helped me out. I now feel better about not having an even WP too.

About the WP dance: I didn't know there was one because the weddings I have been in and have been to have not had one.  I will most definitely not do a WP dance since this is what I am used to. Plus it makes sense that it would be awkward for the WP.

MyNameIsNot

I'm just going to echo everyone else.  We had 4/2 and it was fine.  The guys started up from with my H and the ladies walked up singly.  The last two women walked out together.  I'm biased, but I think it was perfect.

And no WP dance.  I've never seen one in real life, but that sounds terribly uncomfortable.  

CTGirl30

I had to do a WP dance as a BM in a wedding...I danced with some guy I barely knew while my then-boyfriend of like 5 years (and my actual date for the wedding) sat at a table a few feet away, watching. Not that he was the type to freak out over that but I just felt a little weird about it.

They're more awkward than anything else, IMHO.

banana468

Exactly CT girl.  It's just a bit odd to dance with someone that you're not comfortable with - particularly when you actually are at the wedding WITH someone who you'd happily make your dance partner.

And it's awkward to watch too.  DH looks like a robot in our friend's wedding video when he was a GM in that dance.