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MOH duties?

mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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I have seen so many things in reference to this that are completely different... so what exactly are the MOH duties?
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Re: MOH duties?

  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    edited August 2010
    Buy the dress
    Show up clean and sober to the wedding
    Hold your bouquet during the ceremony
    Sign the marriage license

    Everything else is optional, though most MsOH will do them out of love for you.  But things like bach parties, showers, attending fittings, getting pro hair/makeup/specific shoes/jewelry etc. are optional on her part.

    Many of us on this board have found that the less you "assign" your WP to do, the more stuff they will want to do for you and will volunteer to do.

    Since you have a good 20 months until your wedding, don't worry about asking anyone until you hit the year mark or so.  Scroll down the page to see why--people often ask their BFFs to be in the wedding two years out and by a year out they wish they'd asked someone else.  Friendships can change; yours probably won't, but there's no reason to ask now, so don't.  You have nothing to lose by waiting.  Even if the friendship doesn't change, you might give your WP wedding burnout and they won't be as excited come the big day as they might have been.

    ETA: Also be sure to pick your MOH based on the relationship, not the person whom you think will be most able and willing to help you plan or throw you parties.  You know what happens when we assume... This board is full of brides who picked someone based on her ability to help plan and wound up horribly disappointed with a pissed off best friend (who wasn't picked to be MOH) to boot.  Plus, keep your expectations realistic.  If your BFF never shows up on time, she probably won't show up on time to things as your MOH.  
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  • mysticlmysticl member
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    Get dress, Go to rehearsal, Go to wedding, Stand next to bride, Hold bride's flowers, Maybe hold ring.  Get pictures taken.  Give toast at reception. 

    All the rest is really what she is able/willing/has time to do.  Like my MOH and I were talking about both of our weddings (she's getting married 6 months after me) the other night.  I said I wasn't sure about centerpieces.  She started talking about what "we" could do and going to the venue to help me with set up or sending her mom to help (her mom is a 2nd mom to me and is invited to the wedding). 
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    The ever so smart brooke has said everything that I would have said.  And she's undoubtedly said it more clearly than I would.  So go back and read her post again.  But this time, read it in my voice.  =)

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  • MandK9MandK9 member
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    So, I have nothing to add, since the other girls have said it all... but I wanted to say it freaks me out how similar our screen names and avatars are...
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    I think if you linked your wedding channel account to TK you get the purple bride by default.
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