Lots of Kids

haleykag

Ok, so we are having a lot of kids participating in our wedding (he has 4 nieces and 8 nephews).  We aren't using all of them in the ceremony, but want them to all feel special with a part in the wedding.  I need help to know if I need to buy each of them a gift or just the flower girl and ring bearer...and what do you buy the boys anyways?

GoodLuckBear14

Just get the ones in the wedding party a gift and be sure to take lots of pictures with the rest.  How old is the boy?

getaclue44

We are getting our RB a video game for his DS.

Maggie0829

How old are all of these kids?

Just get the ones in the wedding party presents.  I understand wanting to make them all feel special but I think that doing so will just magnify the already "we are special so we can do anything we want" attitude that is very apparent in the younger kids today.  Kids need to learn that things aren't always about them and that they can't always be involved in everything.

artbyallie

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[QUOTE]Ok, so we are having a lot of kids participating in our wedding (he has 4 nieces and 8 nephews). <strong> We aren't using all of them in the ceremony, but want them to all feel special with a part in the wedding</strong>.  I need help to know if I need to buy each of them a gift or just the flower girl and ring bearer...and what do you buy the boys anyways?
Posted by haleykag[/QUOTE]

<div>Does the bolded mean that some of them are handing out programs or minding the guestbook? If so, please don't. Those are crappy consolation prizes and even kids can figure that out.</div>

LDubHawksFan

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[QUOTE]How old are all of these kids? Just get the ones in the wedding party presents.  I understand wanting to make them all feel special but I think that doing so will just magnify the already <strong>"we are special so we can do anything we want" attitude</strong> that is very apparent in the younger kids today.  Kids need to learn that things aren't always about them and that they can't always be involved in everything.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]


I totally agree!  Between FI & I, we have 9 neices and nephews.  We chose to have the oldest 2 on his side be the FG & RB.  I'm getting them small gifts right now, but I refuse to get everyone a gift, although I'm sure my FMIL would say I should do differently.  Recently at FG's bday, she had gotten all of the other 3 kids had little gift bags of goodies.  I don't think that sends the right message.  Get the ones that are actually in the party a gift, and don't make a spectacle of it when you give it to them at the RD.

HuckSC

"Everyone doesn't get a trophy" - My favorite saying.

Miss_2010

We have a lot of kids attending our wedding too, 4 are standing, 1 is singing for us.  They will get thank you gifts.  The other nieces and nephews aren't, they are guests.