Baby bride alert!

aerinpegadrak

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_getting-married-18

Homegirl is currently 16.  SIXTEEN.  The mind, it boggles.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

The mind definitely does boggle.

Sadly - I will venture to say that I don't expect much to come about for this couple.  I knew a couple in high school that were halfway "engaged" when they were 16, and by the time they were 18 - the time they were planning to be married - they hated each other.  She was a 'manipulative biitch' and he was a 'selfish asshole.'

So yeah.  Let her have her fun here - it'll be short lived I'm sure. 

emilykathleen511

Yeah, I was thinking that too--they'll probably break up before they ever get to the point of getting married.

CTGirl30

Totally sounds like MUD to me. Even her SN: Dylansbaby.  Come on.

trix1223

Oh dear.  I hope that this is MUD, but I really fear it's not. 

gottahavashorti

Probably MUD.  Except way too many teenagers refer to themselves as someone's baby.

janedoe1113a

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_baby-bride-alert?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:34b6bb20-69f8-46ed-aba3-56664940dd8dPost:33ec6d82-296c-465c-b75b-48a64459ee0d">Re: Baby bride alert!</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh dear.  I hope that this is MUD, but I really fear it's not. 
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

That is my feeling as well.

When I was 16, my boyfriend and I talked about marriage. We broke up less than a semester into my first year of college. 

I can't believe her mother would even entertain something like this.

aerinpegadrak

I think if it were MUD, she would have stuck around.  And not posted on Attire, which doesn't really have hot button issues.

gottahavashorti

We were told an odd 16 yr old bride story while on a venue tour.  Actually, they were either 16 or 18, but I am going to guess 16.

Apparently, they came to the venue we were touring with their families.  It's a farm with 4-5 wedding sites on the property and you have to drive between them.  They had been on 10+ other venue tours, dragging a herd of family members to them.  The coordinator said the FOB was grumbling about how he didn't want to go to any more venue tours - especially since they weren't even engaged yet.

After FOB's grumbling, the boy proposed during the tour.  They were going to get married there the summer we looked at the venue, I believe.

CTGirl30

Gotta - that is effed up.

Eh, maybe I was thinking if it was MUD the poster would have put baby in her SN just to further illustrate her point that she is, indeed a child (wanna-be) bride. But yeah, I guess you're right - a lot of teens do refer to themselves as so and so's "baby." 

::shudder::  Please, please, please do not let that post be real.

loop0406

Teen Mom MTV....anyone?
lol

Jelenny

wow....yeah in HS my bf and i thought we were going to get married, ummm i think lots of "kids" do...then college hits and people change and grow up even more....

however my parents would NEVER have supported me or entertained the idea as a teenager whether or not i would be getting married at the age of 18

bananapudding91

Agreed. She needs to calm down. And why is she trying to start planning 2 years prior, anyway?
They both need to grow up before even contemplating ENGAGEMENT at that age, if that's real.

aerinpegadrak

Yeah, I think what scares me most is that mom seems to be going along with it, even if she is disagreeing on the particulars.  I like to think that if my 16 year old daughter came to me and told me she were engaged, I'd sit her down and have a long talk about the sort of life experience that's necessary to make a choice like that.

bablingbrooke

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_baby-bride-alert?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:34b6bb20-69f8-46ed-aba3-56664940dd8dPost:ad6205e9-3c8b-447f-9180-7eec5efc3314">Re: Baby bride alert!</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, I think what scares me most is that mom seems to be going along with it, even if she is disagreeing on the particulars.  I like to think that if my 16 year old daughter came to me and told me she were engaged, I'd sit her down and have a long talk about the sort of life experience that's necessary to make a choice like that.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]
Or just refuse consent, since she's 16 and can't legally make the decision for herself in most states.

aerinpegadrak

Oh yeah, I'd absolutely refuse consent if my kid needed me to legally approve their marriage.  But the poster here said they were planning on waiting until they were 18, at which point she wouldn't need consent. 

bablingbrooke

$10 says they aren't together in a year, let alone still engaged in two.  That's not my wish, just the nature of being a teenager in zomgLOVE!

acmj11

People that young getting engaged irk me.  Even if they are meant to be and the love of each other's lives, why rush anything?  Do things for yourself first.  Get an education, travel, whatever, but there's no reason to get married as a teenager.  I'm sorry but at 16, you're still a child.

jenn.daniel

I wasn't even allowed to date until I was 16...

lenergyrlah

Yeah planning your wedding at 16 seems to definitely be a bad idea and I agree with everyone above that it likely won't work out.  However, my FI's parents started dating when she was 14 (he would have been 16 or 17 I think) and got married right after HS graduation when she was 18 (he was mostly through college at that point).  My parents started dating senior year of high school and were married 2 years later (at 19 and 20).  Surprisingly both couples are still together.  My point is that even though most HS relationships don't work out, there are a few that actually do and I just hope everything works out for her.