Hello all, wondering if I can get some insight into this situation. I am getting married Nov 2012. I am originally from another state and moved to New York after dating my fiance long distance for 4 years - he is from here. I am still very close with my old friends back home and have asked several of them to be in my wedding party. No problems there.
Since I've lived here, while I've made some acquaintences I've really only made one solid friendship with someone. She's definitely made the transition to living in a new state easier and I'm so glad I met her. Also, since she's the only one that lives in the same state as me, she has been and will be helping with me a lot of things -shopping for veils, flowers, centerpices, that kind of stuff.
She is a good friend but not on the same "known her forever and will always know her" level that I have wiht my other friends, obviously. We're close but I can't honestly say if circumstances change, (we currently work togehter) that we have that "forever firends" bond. I'd like to think so, but it's happened many times in my life through transitions that certain people just come and go - part of life.
I'd like to ask her to be a BM because she has and will be helping me wht so much, and i already planned on having her there for the rehearsal, getting ready in the am, limo to the ceremony, etc. The only thing she's not currently doing is wlaking down the aisle or standing up in my party. I just keep going back and forht - it seems almost rude to not include her in that one part, at the same time, isit enought for her to be invovled in all that wihtout being an "official" bridesmaid?
I'm really at a loss about this for some reason, so any opinions are appreciated!