Creative ways to ask my MOH?

Pixel'sMom

Hello!

I'm ready to ask my gf to be my MOH. But am hoping to get some fun ideas...
How did you ask your girls/boys?
I'll have my best friend as MOH and my closest guy friend as my bridesman.

TIA!

Manwaithiel

You are not ready to ask your MOH. And this is why.

Your wedding is almost 2 years away. Do you realize how much can change in that time? A lot.

Like a LOT.

Wait until January or so of 2012. Then ask them.

In the mean time, I just asked them through Facebook. There are cool ecards you can send. Anything like that.

bablingbrooke

I picked up the phone and asked.  Not everything needs to be a production, and if you're having trouble coming up with a cutesy idea on your own, I tend to think it's a sign you should skip the mini-ceremony and just ask.  For the WP, the honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW they are asked.

bablingbrooke

Oh, you're not getting married until Aug 2012?  Definitely wait.  There is no reason to ask now.  Don't paint yourself into a corner two years out.  There's nothing for the WP to do this early anyway.

Pixel'sMom

Thank you all for advice!

FI and I are going out of the country for a year starting January(for his job). So I need to book a venue and cake and flowers now, or it'll be too late by the time we get back.  I feel funny about asking her to help me without having her be my MOH officially? Am I overthinking it?

bablingbrooke

You don't need to ask the WP before you leave.  I would actually advise you not to since moving overseas can really change relationships (I've been there--trust me, things can change).  You can book all the other stuff, but hold off on asking the WP.  One has no bearing on the other.  

Also, don't "officially" ask--just ask!  Turning everything into its own ceremony will get very old very quick.

aerinpegadrak

Just remember that your MOH is under no obligation to help you book vendors or venues.  You can certainly ask your friend for her input or assistance, but she's well within her rights to say no, even if she's accepted the role of MOH.

Manwaithiel

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[QUOTE]Thank you all for advice! FI and I are going out of the country for a year starting January(for his job). So I need to book a venue and cake and flowers now, or it'll be too late by the time we get back.  I feel funny about asking her to help me without having her be my MOH officially? Am I overthinking it?
Posted by Pixel'sMom[/QUOTE]

Help you with what?

MOHs, and the WP in general are not obligated to help with anything unless they offer their assistance. Otherwise, they're just going to stand up there with you as your honored friends. The end.

Pixel'sMom

Bablingbrooke , great points! I'll book the venue/cake for now and wait to do the rest after we get back.

mysticl

I said "you know you're the maid of honor, right". 

As for the bridesmaids they are my nieces and pretty much assumed they would be in the wedding, which I'm totally cool with so I made a couple of calls to their moms (the girls are tweens) to "officially" ask.