Wedding Party Purses

lindsaygenereaux

I'm going to get my girls matching purses for our wedding day just so they have somewhere to store stuff.  Should I be adding anything else to it like safety pins, mints, that sort of thing or just leave that for my emergency kit?  Thanks!

Licia&Wayne

Not to pee on your parade or anything, but why can't they carry their own purses? Will they ever use the matching ones again? It's a nice thought, but matching purses might be a waste of money.

mbcdefg

I bought my two bridesmaids each a black clutch so she didn't have to go out and get their own. I left them empty, though. I don't know what kind of products they like, and all that "emergency" stuff was in my personal tote bag (plus the maitre d' at our reception hall had some stuff on hand that we might need, like when I needed a safety pin for my broken bustle).

lindsaygenereaux

Thank you!  I would rather having matching purses that way a) they don't have to go out and buy them themselves they already have to buy their dresses and shoes and b) I want things to match even if you don't even see the purses through out the night I know that they match! I'll just keep it all in my little emergency stash! 

bablingbrooke

Will it really haunt your nightmares if the BMs don't have matching purses?  I mean it's not a bad gift, I guess I don't understand the "necessity" of it.  The purse will be either under the table or at the coat check or wherever all night once they get to the reception.

hisalwaysandforever

I think it will be a nice gift, but I would try picking out matching purses that you think they will like and use again. This way, it is a nice gift, not just an accessory you are making them use for the wedding.

emilyinchile

What Brooke said, except that I do think it's a bad gift. Some girls have all sorts of different purses and rotate them all the time - I have a big black bag that I use every single day, a small black evening purse, and a purse that was a gift that I use every once in a while when I remember it's hanging in my closet. I would have no use for your matching purse, so you'd be wasting your money.

ead1975

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-party-purses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:3a9f2da3-97ee-40fa-bb16-5635495fbec8Post:626f1f27-0e50-4458-aebf-b62a34774a36">Re: Wedding Party Purses</a>:
[QUOTE]Will it really haunt your nightmares if the BMs don't have matching purses?
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
I have to admit, I literally laughed out loud at this.  Thankfully, my office is empty at the moment.
Personally, I'm particular about my accessories. I mean, if it was a simple black clutch, I'd probably be ok with it in the end, as long as it could hold my essentials. But I'd also probably roll my eyes at being expected to match other people right down to my purse, and I might even wonder if you were giving us all matching underwear, too.  I probably wouldn't say it out loud, though. (Probably.)

CA2MT4EveR

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-party-purses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:3a9f2da3-97ee-40fa-bb16-5635495fbec8Post:d0c7a37d-1b76-444c-a1fa-f6a6c5fbe3ef">Re: Wedding Party Purses</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you!  I would rather having matching purses that way a) they don't have to go out and buy them themselves they already have to buy their dresses and shoes and b) I want things to match even if you don't even see the purses through out the night I know that they match! I'll just keep it all in my little emergency stash! 
Posted by lindsaygenereaux[/QUOTE]

Wait, wait- let me guess!  They have the same shoes and will be wearing the same jewelry and same hairstyle too!  And you probably have a friend with short hair and it's just killing you her hair will be different

trix1223

If you're expecting them to all carry the same purse, then you are seriously micromanaging here.  Save yourself some money.  Spend it on something that they'd like, rather than what you'd like.  And stop micromanaging.

Please tell me they don't also have to have the same hairstyles, jewelry, makeup, manicures, pedicures, and shoes.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Party Purses : Wait, wait- let me guess!  They have the same shoes and will be wearing the same jewelry and same hairstyle too!  And you probably have a friend with short hair and it's just killing you her hair will be different
Posted by CA2MT4EveR[/QUOTE]

Silly CA, it's obvious - she didn't ask the friend with short hair so as to avoid exactly this problem!

shan87

Wow I find this post to be kind of catty ladies.

I am giving my girls making clutches from esty not to micromanage but as a nice gift. Perhaps she was just trying to do the same?!


Lindsey I also got them a necklace and will be putting it in their clutch and giving it to them at the rehearsal dinner. I say it is a lovely gift!

bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE]Thank you!  I would rather having matching purses that way a) they don't have to go out and buy them themselves they already have to buy their dresses and shoes and b) <strong>I want things to match even if you don't even see the purses through out the night I know that they match</strong>! I'll just keep it all in my little emergency stash! 
Posted by lindsaygenereaux[/QUOTE]
This is why people are responding the way that they are.  She wants them to match, even if no one can see it.

gottahavashorti

For both the wedding I was in and my own wedding, I left my belongings in the bridal suite.  My BMs did the same.  I have no idea if they got their purses for the reception, but if they did they would have been tucked under a table anyhow.  Hardly something you'd notice.

CA2MT4EveR

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Party Purses : Silly CA, it's obvious - she didn't ask the friend with short hair so as to avoid exactly this problem!
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

Oh duh, silly me!  So when one girl gets pregnant or cuts her hair, she'll be back in a few months to tells us about it!

Cutie2882

Why can't anyone on these boards  just ANSWER THE QUESTION THAT WAS ASKED? The same posters come and here and rip people apart over what they bought their bridesmaids, etc. I was curious as to what people would answer because (gasp!) I bought my girls matching purses too! I really don't care if they match, I just figured it would be a nice little thing to give so they would have one less thing to buy. I wanted to know what to put in there, like tissues, gum, etc.

I'm not trying to be sarcastic or mean here but Babblingbrook and trix, if you don't like the question why can't you skip past it and not add your opinion? It seems like no one can ask a question on this board without cattiness from you two.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]Why can't anyone on these boards  just ANSWER THE QUESTION THAT WAS ASKED? The same posters come and here and rip people apart over what they bought their bridesmaids, etc. I was curious as to what people would answer because (gasp!) I bought my girls matching purses too! I really don't care if they match,<strong> I just figured it would be a nice little thing to give so they would have one less thing to buy.</strong> I wanted to know what to put in there, like tissues, gum, etc. I'm not trying to be sarcastic or mean here but Babblingbrook and trix, if you don't like the question why can't you skip past it and not add your opinion? It seems like no one can ask a question on this board without cattiness from you two.
Posted by Cutie2882[/QUOTE]
But why would they have to buy a purse?  It's not a required accessory.  I don't carry purses, if it doesn't fit in my pockets, it goes in DH's.  In the rare situations where I do need a purse, I have a plain black clutch that goes with everything.  So if a bride gave me a purse as a gift and said it was a way of saving me money, I'd definitely give her the side eye and figure that she'd lost it.

gottahavashorti

I didn't even buy a purse for my own wedding, so why in the world would I buy one for someone else's wedding?

banana468

Cutie, offering a different opinion isn't cattiness.

This thread has been fairly respectful.  The answers may not be exactly in line with what the OP wanted but there's nothing wrong with a respectfully stated dissenting opinion.

emilyinchile

I've said this before, and I'll say it again: sometimes "just answering the question" is not giving the best advice possible. If someone posted a question about how to rob a bank, would you keep you opinions to yourself and just suggest they wear a ski mask, or would you say that robbing a bank was actually a pretty bad idea?

Obviously I'm not comparing this situation to robbing a bank, but the example holds true - the question is about how to do something that is not necessarily a good idea. The justification for why OP wanted to do that made her idea sound kind of ridiculous because matching purses that no one sees is just a total waste of money.