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flower-girl question

My fiance has 2 nieces and 1 nephew. We asked the nephew (2 years old) to be our ring bearer, but decided not to ask either of the nieces to be a flower-girl (one is just a year and the other is 2 months). My question is, can we still list the one year old as an "honorary flower-girl" since she is too little to walk down the aisle or be pulled in a cart? My fiance thought maybe she might be able to sit on the end of the aisle up front with her mom and throw flowers from there...  Anyway, if we can list her as such, should we also list the 2 month old out of "fairness"?
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    A two-month-old has absolutely no concept of fairness.  Same with the one-year-old.  You don't need a flower girl, and anyone who isn't old enough to explain, in their own words, what their role in the wedding would be isn't old enough to have a role.
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    There's no reason to list her as an honorary flower girl.  She's not a flower girl, so don't list her as one.
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    edited July 2010
    Sounds good. We will just stick with our ring bearer as originally planned. Just thought I would ask because I know my fiance really wanted to include his niece so that we could include his other brother's child as well. Though it certainly makes sense that she will not comprehend her roll (even if it is just a silly title assigned to her) and is too young.

    Thanks!
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    All three kids are too young to be in the wedding.  These are babies.  Babies don't know what a wedding is, don't care what a wedding is, and aren't jealous if they can't be a part of it.  Since none of these kids can walk down the aisle unassisted or tell you what their function is in the wedding, don't ask any of them.  

    If the parents are getting bent out of shape about it, just tell them no.  Your wedding isn't a venue for them to show off their babies.
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    edited July 2010
    I'm with brooke.  I think they're all too young.  My rule of thumb is always that a member of the WP has to be able to get themselves down the aisle under their own power, and then use words to tell what their role in the wedding is. 

    IMO, none of the kids are capable of that.  Obviously, it's just nms to have babies and toddlers in a WP.
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