In November I had my wedding party all planned out with my sister and two step-sisters as bridesmaids. Due to space restraints at the venue, I decided to limit the amount of BM I had. So I decided to ask one of my best friends from high school to do a reading.
At Thanksgiving I had dinner with a different friend from high school and she asked me to be in her bridal party. I was VERY surprised as we had grown apart over the last few years and had even been in a fight with no communication for almost a year most recently. She was one of those girls that you discuss your wedding day with growing up, but I honestly thought that she would only invite me as a guest, as I was planning to do with her.
She of course asked me who I was having in my bridal part and there was an awkward discussion where I told her I was having my sisters and no friends. She was surprised (and I think relieved) that I was not having my other friend in the party.
Fast-forward to January and I decide that there's no way I could get married without my friend (the reader) by my side and so I asked her to be a BM. I do not want to ask my other friend. We are just not that close anymore.
So now I need to figure out what to tell my other friend. I know that many people on these boards suggest not saying anything, but I don't want her to be surprised at or before the wedding and get upset. She is a very jealous friend and I'm not sure how to broach the subject. She and my other friend have vied for my attention over the years and because I am now in her bridal party, it could become very awkward.
Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks.