Flower girl/ring bearer gifts?

MissMillieFrank

Hey all - just wanted to get some opinions about this. FI's niece and nephew will be our FG and RB. They are 5 and 3. I had planned to get them a little something for them just to let them know that their aunt and uncle loved them (a.k.a. like, some shoes she can play dress up with for her and a toy train/stuffed animal for him). I just got a text from FSIL telling me she was thinking about getting pearl earrings for her daughter for the wedding "unless I planend to get them as a gift for standing up." Now I've started to overthink this - am I really supposed to get pearl earrings for a 5 year old to thank her for walking down the aisle with some flowers?? (Don't know that this matters, but as an aside, we offered to pay for their outfits, However, FI's mom generously insisted that she cover them, so it's not like FSIL and her husband are dropping buttloads of money on this.) What are you guys getting for your RB/FG??

Fancypantsamy

I don't have a RB. I got my FG a little backpack that had "Flower Girl" embrodered on it (She's 4 - don't worry, I'm not getting "Bridesmaid" swag for my BMs, I'm just giving them normal things like a new clutch or a pretty pair of earrings) and I'm filling the backpack with things like a dress up tiara, a coloring book and some other fun things. I also bought her FG dress ($12 at Marshalls! Hooray for post-Easter sales on little girl dresses!)

I don't think you have to get her pearl earrings. She herself probably wouldn't like them as much as the fun stuff you had planned, and this isn't a gift to her mother. 

Kate61487

I got my FG a custom made American Girl doll dress that matched her FG dress so that she and her doll could match.  She was ecstatic.  I think something fun that your FG will actually get to enjoy in the moment is the way to go. 

I know many people will do a cheap fun gift and a nicer 'memory' gift (like a pocketknife, handkerchief, jewelry) that they can have as a keepsake when they're older.  That may be something she's seen and so she just didn't want to double-purchase something.  If you're not thinking you want to get her any kind of jewelry just tell SIL.  Obviously you didn't tell HER she needed them, so if she wants to spend her money on pearl earrings thats her choice.

cwaggoner07

I am getting my 4 year old flower girls matching tutus for dress-up, and each a sticker book of Disney Princess Weddings. They LOVE stickers and princesses.

lstruggles

My daughter is my FG so I am just going to get her something small and our RB is one of our groomsman's son.  I have not even thought about what to get him.

I think pearl earrings would be nice and not too expensive - but I think it's rude that she asked you if you were going to buy her them as a gift.  There are no rules as to what you should give them so just go with what you feel is appropriate.

aerinpegadrak

Well, a pair of grown-up earrings seems to be a common FG gift, so I think that her mom was probably more wanting to double-check before going ahead and buying them herself (I've done that when purchasing a gift, getting doubles sucks) rather than fishing.  If you don't feel like buying the earrings, just tell her mom, "You can go ahead, we've got another gift in mind."

MissMillieFrank

Oh yeah, I definitely didn't get the vibe that she was fishing for a gift or anything. Rather, I was slightly freaking out that I was way off base re: the price point and expectation of flower girl/ring bearer gifts. I LOVE the idea of the matching American girl doll dress! As someone who loved the crap out of my American girl doll, I think she would love that. Is it alright if I steal the idea?

TiffannieF

I got our RB and FGs toys.  They loved playing with them when we were getting ready and taking pictures.

kitty02kat

We're probably doing toys/activity books to keep them occupied and then fun PJ's for them to change into if they like so they can dance the night away.  

michellenaomi81

I found some really cute "pearl" bracelets on etsy as well as personalized stamped necklaces. The bracelets are $8 and the necklaces are $20. Search on there maybe? Tons of cute stuff. I think the backpack idea is cute too but I have 6 flower girls so that's out of the question