I'm very, very close to being engaged, and my boyfriend's brother has told me many times that he's planning to propose to his girlfriend soon, too. I absolutely adore her, and hope that she will one day be my sister-in-law. My question is, should I ask her to be my bridesmaid, or wait until he proposes? I would HATE to have her stand by my side, and then they break up and she's in all my pictures! Then again, I think it would be odd for us to all be in-laws, her bf having served as Best Man and she wasn't a bridesmaid even though they were together at the time.
Keep in mind that my bf is planning to have my male cousin (who is the closest thing I have to a brother) serve as a groomsmen, even though they're not that close.