This is a little bit long and a LOT ridiculous.
I'm getting married April 30, 2011. When FI and I discussed the bridal party, I asked how many groomsmen he would have and he said maybe 2 (we're LD, so groomsmen would have to travel around 800 miles to attend), but he wasn't sure if the second person he wanted could make it. So I mentioned that if person 2 couldn't, he could ask my brother *IF* he wanted/was comfortable. He wasn't, at the time, so I said no big deal, totally fine. Either way, I planned on him having 2 GM and I picked 2 BM. I was a little bummed because I wanted to ask his sister, but I (obviously and stupidly) didn't think of the whole uneven party thing.
Fast forward to yesterday...FI mentions he's having *3* GM because he really wants my brother to be one of them and both of his other GMs can make it (and he thinks having just 2 people on each side is "sad"). Okay, great, this shouldn't be an issue, except...
Based on us having 2 on each side, my BMs and I picked out and ordered their dresses - the MOH and the other BM have the same dress and dress color. In the intervening time, the color we ordered has been discontinued. I'm calling David's today to see if ANY of the stores has that style & color in FSIL's size on the SLIM chance they do. Otherwise...ugh.
So I had three potential ideas:
1) Have my brother be an attendant on my side, FSIL be on FI's side in a different dress than the BM's - having her on his side in a different dress kills the "who's the MOH" confusion.
2) Have us each get 2 additionals (so...FSIL and one of my friends I would have asked had I thought he had more than 2 GM) and the 2 BMs dress in a different dress & color (our colors are green & yellow, so they'd be in the yellow, and the other two would be in green).
3) Stick to 2 on each side, regardless of the fact that BOTH of us really wanted to add people.
4) Beg my BM not to hate me, reimburse her for the first dress, and have her and FSIL in the yellow in a different dress than the MOH.
5) Elope?
Any ideas/suggestions? I KNOW that this was...really dumb of us, and it was a total miscommunication/mistake/etc. I just want to make it right and have the people we want in our WP, because I know I really wanted both his sister and my brother in the WP, and now that I know he does, too, everything's all...up in the air. 