I have 3 best friends who I have been friends with since middle school. We have stayed fairly close, and now I'm having the dilemma of who to select to be my MOH. Right now the plan is to have a bridal party of 5-6 people.
I thought about making all 3 MOHs but wasn't sure if that would get too complicated. I also thought about having no MOH at all.
One is already married and didn't have a bridal party (she went to a justice of the peace). The other two have sisters who will definitely be their MOHs whenever they get married. I do not have any close female relatives who I can ask.
My one friend out of the 3 who I am the closest with is also helping plan her sister's wedding at the same time as the MOH for her. I love her dearly and she has remained super close and supportive to me over the past few years.
The 2nd friend introduced my fiance and I four years ago and is friends with us both so by default it seems like she should do it, but she hasn't been as good of a friend recently. I promised her when we were little that she would be my MOH. However, my feelings since then have changed (it's been a long time!)
The 3rd friend would be a Matron of Honor. We went to college together but also haven't been as close recently either. She said she would be happy and understand whatever decision I made regarding including them in the wedding party, which I really appreciate.
My heart is telling me either to go with my 1st friend or to ask all 3 of them to avoid bad feelings. I do think friend #2 will be very hurt if I don't pick her to be the MOH, but I would hope that as a true friend she would be happy to still participate as a bridesmaid. Any advice is greatly appreciated!
