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My fiance and I are getting married in our hometown - and it's a smaller town of about 8-thousandish or so people.  There are not a lot of options when it comes to "wedding night" lodging.

We have a slew of bottom rung motels to choose from, a locally owned hotel that used to be a Comfort Inn (Comfort Inn left the facility due to the building not being up to their standards) and a brand new Holiday Inn Express.  We have a block of rooms reserved both at the old Comfort Inn and the Holiday Inn Express.

Out of town about 25 miles is a Casino with a really nice resort and hotel - but, they are expensive, and after dancing and drinking all night I'm not thinking we will want to drive all the way out there.

There is another resort a little bit closer to town, on the lake, with several cabins for rent.  My sister and her husband rented one of those for their wedding - however, I'm not so sure we should do it.  You have to rent them for a minimum of two nights, and they sleep 13 people.  So basically, they're huge, and expensive, and frankly quite much for just one night.

My aunt works at the Holiday Inn Express - I called her today to see if they have any suites we could reserve away from the block of rooms our guests will be staying.  She said they do - and that if our guests book 10 nights (like, all our guests total) then the bride and groom could get their room for free.

This sounds like a good idea to me - and my fiance too.  Except I'm not sure I want to tell anyone where we're staying - some of our out of town guests are kinda nosy and I feel like if they knew we were going to be around, they'd bug us.

Is it ok to book a room there and just not tell anyone where we're staying?  I guess I feel like it's none of their business anyway.
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    I suppose it's fine not to tell anyone, but I betcha word will get out.  That said, no one will know what room you are actually in so that helps!

    I've stayed at the same hotel several times as the bride and groom.  I don't really know of anyone bugging them too much, but I don't know your family.

    If you get them good and liquored up at the reception, then perhaps they will just all  pass out and leave you alone Tongue out
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    I don't think you need to broadcast it, but I wouldn't keep it secret.  This probably isn't what you are worried about, but it almost sounds like you don't want people to know where you are having sex.  It sounds really silly.  

    My family is nosy too, but everyone knows what happens on a wedding night and I doubt anyone will be popping in going "have you guys had sex yet?"

    If someone wants to really bug you and interrupt you two, they will do it at Holiday inn or travel out to the casino.

    So if someone asks, don't lie.
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    I think it's fine.  The closest hotels to our venue were a few miles away, and we blocked the one we did because it was in stumbling distance of the only nearby bar.  We just noted on our website that there were several other hotels in the area as well in case anyone wanted to stay somewhere nicer.

    We wanted to be within walking distance from the bar and at somewhere slightly nicer without breaking the bank, so we stayed at another hotel.  For the most part if people asked where we were staying we just said "down the hill" (3-4 hotels there) although a couple family members ended up knowing where we were staying.  I knew DH wouldn't want to be woken up early for any breakfast plans and the like if people knew where we were.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_not-sure-this-right-board-this-question-here-goes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:48a2ece3-1ebe-4022-8df0-587a3f8c6b92Post:ccbb7625-5cdd-4564-b878-a6d5d8950865">Re: Not sure if this is the right board for this question? Here goes...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't think you need to broadcast it, but I wouldn't keep it secret.  This probably isn't what you are worried about, but it almost sounds like you don't want people to know where you are having sex.  It sounds really silly.   <strong>My family is nosy too, but everyone knows what happens on a wedding night and I doubt anyone will be popping in going "have you guys had sex yet?"</strong> If someone wants to really bug you and interrupt you two, they will do it at Holiday inn or travel out to the casino. So if someone asks, don't lie.
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    I wish my extended family had this much class - unfortunately - nope.  I love them anyway :)  But damn.

    If anyone asks where we're staying I don't plan on LYING, per se - I just don't want to tell anyone where we're staying.  Just maybe say something like "oh, we're not telling."
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    We actually hosted our entire wedding out of our hotel room.  No one turned up unannounced.  I can't possibly imagine seeking out the bride and groom in their hotel in any other situation.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_not-sure-this-right-board-this-question-here-goes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:48a2ece3-1ebe-4022-8df0-587a3f8c6b92Post:c4e4198f-202f-41fb-8a74-81d952e23064">Re: Not sure if this is the right board for this question? Here goes...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not sure if this is the right board for this question? Here goes... : I wish my extended family had this much class - unfortunately - nope.  I love them anyway :)  But damn. If anyone asks where we're staying I don't plan on LYING, per se - I just don't want to tell anyone where we're staying.  Just maybe say something like "oh, we're not telling."
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    <div>Haha, I'm sorry your family might do that!  I guess I wouldn't give out my room number and ask the front desk to not tell anyone what your room number is, or maybe ask you aunt to find an empty room and give that out instead.  That way those who try to pester you can't.</div>
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    Those are good options too.

    Thank you, I appreciate it :)
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    When my boyfriend's brother got married we somehow managed to get a nicer room than he did so on the morning of the wedding (aside from getting a visit from mother nature- a feat that can be dangerous for me because of my anemia) I also had to deal with the groom, best man and other groomsman all showering and getting dressed in our hotel room!  The happy couple slept just down the hall from us on their wedding night and my boyfriend's family is so close that it felt like everyone was in and out of everyone else's rooms the next day as we all prepared to leave. Needless to say I feel your pain.

    What you might consider doing is booking a night at the casino hotel. Having a couple groomsmen drop off your vehical at the hotel the day of the wedding and have a driver take you to the hotel after the reception, if you don't want any unexpected visits. Of course its up to you wether privacy or budget comes first on your wedding night. Personally I would prefer to pay the extra expense and sleep in without any annoying relatives popping by.

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    I get your concerns.  One of my FI's GM asked what room we would be in so he and his wife and 2 kids could be next door. WTF?!?!  Even though my FI and I have lived together for 3 years, we still would like a special night and a little privacy. 

    I think if you just tell the hotel that you would prefer that they don't inform your guests what room you are staying in you should be fine.

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