How to ask a bridesmaid to be in wedding?

virgogal1979

So I am thinking ahead, but am wanting to get alot of ideas for all aspects of my wedding, and well I have pretty much picked out my wedding party, bridesmaids and all. I have a pretty big bridal party. But  its what I want and well I think it will be good! I want to find a nice and surprisingly fun way to tell my BM's that I want them to be in my wedding. Someone on these boards had a really neat idea, and I like it. Send my girls a card in the mail asking them to be my bridesmaid. The picture on the front had a picture of the dress in the color I want. They were made on etsy. I would love to have one for my MOH, my bridesmaids, my junior bridesmaids (my daughters), my flower girl, and even my nephews who I want in the wedding too. Something cute for the kids.. Any ideas??

gottahavashorti

Wait until at least September to ask.  Asking on the phone or in person is perfectly fine and can be better than trying to make something cute, but a card could work as long as you write what you would have said inside.

trix1223

Just call and ask them.  You get the value added of hearing them squeal in delight., and it's free.

In the coming months, the manipulative wedding industry will do their very best to convince you that everything, EVERYTHING, about your wedding must be clever, unique, creative, memorable, and unusual or your wedding won't be special.

It will be special because it's YOUR wedding.  The wedding industry will also do their very best to convince you that you must turn everything into a big production or it's meaningless.

Here's your chance to hop off the wedding insanity train before it even starts chuggin' along.  Remember:  the honor is in BEING asked, not in HOW you're asked.

Will your friends feel any less thrilled to be in your WP if you call and ask them than they will if you give them a cookie shaped like a dress and a white rose?  Answer:  NO.

Finally:  I don't know when your wedding is, but wait until about 8-9 months out before asking anyone.  Why?  Scroll down this board to see the countless posts from brides who asked too early, and now are looking for ways to kick out a member of the WP because relationships have changed.

steelewitt

I love this Idea! My friend saw really cute DYI bridesmaids cards on oncewed.com. She cut out cute little dresses and everything.

I plan on doing something similar myself. It's not a necessity of course, but a nice touch i think.

bablingbrooke

Pick up the phone and call.  Not everything has to be a production just because it's related to the wedding.