Bach Party?

sboyce26

I'm getting married in 17 days!! (very excited) and I am only 20 years old, which means for my bach party there is no way of doing anything that has to do with bar hopping etc... I had mentioned to my MOHs (I have two) that I wanted to just have a nice lunch and get our nails done... Then I said that we could go to a karoake bar, that isn't 21 and up, or just get a hotel room... This all sounds fun. The only problem is that nobody is planning anything. They dont care to and they haven't contacted me. When I brought it up last one of them said "yeah, I wanna get my  nails done, count me in"... but she didn't offer to help plan it. I know it's not their duty, but I just thought they would help... They haven't really helped with anything, which is fine, I'm anal about things anyways... Should I plan my own party or just not do it?

baystateapple

No, you shouldn't plan your own bachelorette party.  If nobody plans one for you, you unfortunately don't get to have one.  It's rude to plan a party in your own honor.

If you want to get your nails done with the girls, then I would suggest getting together a "girls' day out", and having them all go with you to do your nails at a salon, and maybe go and get drinks and lunch afterward.

frogurt814

Your BMs are not required to throw you any pre-wedding parties.

You can't really plan your own party.  If you want to go get your nails done just say "hey, I'm going to get my nails done and X salon at X time.  If you want to get yours done too, you can call X to schedule your appointment."

sboyce26

okay... thanks.

trix1223

ditto frogurt.  If they don't offer to throw a b-party, you don't have one.  It's a simple as that.  Disappointing?  Perhaps, but not a requirement nonetheless.

sboyce26

Thanks, I just didnt' know...

gottahavashorti

Don't plan your party.  And it is possible to throw something together very quickly.  I don't know anyone whose bachelorettes took even days to plan.

mbcdefg

I think it's fine to get people together if you just want to hang out, but I would absolutely pay your own way and make an attempt to treat everyone else to something (the nails, the hotel room, dinner).

Don't call it a "bachelorette," because then people would probably feel obligated to cover your expenses, and nothing is ruder than basically saying, "Please come to this party I'm throwing for myself, where tradition says that you should pay my way! Yippee!" Even saying that you just want to GTG is risky, because I think people would still step in and try to pay for you, so maybe arrange to pay ahead of time so that it's clear that you're treating.

My bachelorette was a week before my wedding, and I'm sure it took very little time to put together. Like Stage said, maybe something is in the works ... my sister/MOH was very secretive about everything and I didn't know what was going on until she took me to the location.