Bummed :(

lililuvsrocky

So I see all of the Brides to Be having Bridal Showers... and I am totally bummed because my older Sister (who is my MOH) did not have a Bridal Shower for me nor attended my Bachelorette party because she was sick and I understand but no Bridal Shower??? I feel like crying when I see these Brides to Be having a bridal shower right before the wedding...my wedding is in two weeks ... and I didn't have anything a Bride always wished for...a Bridal Shower I just wanted to express my feelings with you Ladies...have all of you had a Bridal Shower or am I not alone on this?  /

stina93446

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[QUOTE]So I see all of the Brides to Be having Bridal Showers... and I am totally bummed because my older Sister (who is my MOH) did not have a Bridal Shower for me nor attended my Bachelorette party because she was sick and I understand but no Bridal Shower??? I feel like crying when I see these Brides to Be having a bridal shower right before the wedding...my wedding is in two weeks ... and I didn't have anything a Bride always wished for...a Bridal Shower :( I just wanted to express my feelings with you Ladies...have all of you had a Bridal Shower or am I not alone on this?  :o/
Posted by lililuvsrocky[/QUOTE]

<div>I am sorry that she didn't throw you a shower, but why did none of your other bms throw you one? She's not the only one who could've done it. None of the pre wedding parties are mandatory though. So yes, it sucks, but not everyone gets one. </div><div>
</div><div>And the only reason for a bridal shower is to open gifts for your kitchen. That's it.</div>

lililuvsrocky

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[QUOTE]In Response to Bummed :( : I am sorry that she didn't throw you a shower, but why did none of your other bms throw you one? She's not the only one who could've done it. None of the pre wedding parties are mandatory though. So yes, it sucks, but not everyone gets one.  And the only reason for a bridal shower is to open gifts for your kitchen. That's it.
Posted by stina93446[/QUOTE]

the other BM's threw me the Bachelorette and planned it all by themselves ... and they asked me for the Bridal Shower and I told them I won't have one because my sister hasn't told me anything... and they couldn't because they all live so far away and plus I would feel bad asking since they did the Bachelorette w/no obligation.  I just feel bad b/c I wanted a Bridal Shower :( which it sucks!

aerinpegadrak

Well, this bride didn't wish for a bridal shower, and felt it would be irresponsible to expect all of my girls to travel a second time just to watch me open gifts...  Yeah, it kind of sucks, but be bummed for a few minutes and then move on.  A shower really isn't that big a deal, everyone I know tends to find them horribly dull.

stina93446

Well again, I am sorry that your sister didn't throw you one, but she's not required to throw you one. Be happy that you got a B party because there are SOME brides out there that didn't get EITHER party. 

suz62984

Yeah that sucks but yay for a bach. party! To be honest my FI and I had a couples shower last weekend. I didn't know any of the couples as they were his parent's friends. The couples hadn't really seen my FI in years so everyone was talking to him. I stood in the corner talking to FBIL and drinking my mimosas. When it came time to open presents it was very awkward and quite. Showers aren't always what they are cracked up to be. Take time to be disappointed and then get excited because your wedding is in two weeks! YAY!

emilyinchile

I didn't have one. I live in Chile, so none of my US friends and family would have been here, and no one does bridal showers here. I will admit that part of me was bummed because I know that if I'd been in CA someone would have thrown one, and it would have been a fun get together. But I also don't feel like I missed some essential rite of passage, nor was your sister obligated to do this for you - another friend or relative could have stepped up, so it's not all her fault that you didn't have one.

Focus on the good: you're getting married in two weeks! If you're crying over a gift opening part, I think you need to refocus a little and remember what's really important here.

MyWedding13

That really sucks. I'm sorry that you didn't have one. I know I would be really bummed. I am kind of suprised no one else stepped up and decided to throw you one. Although, I have to say if I had to pick one...I would rather have the B party. You are still getting wedding gifts and you and your FI can open them together. But the B party...there isn't a way around that. Chin up, you are getting married in two weeks!!!!!!!! Yay!

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I didn't have a bridal shower, nor did I always wish for one. I think it's gift-grabby to expect people to give you two gifts for 1 wedding. My friends and family already had to travel for the wedding, I didn't need a shower to get more gifts than what we got at the reception.

lililuvsrocky

thank you Ladies now I know I am not the only one... YAY for getting married in 2 weeks!!!! I know for sure that my biggest present is getting married to the one I love

stina93446

Yeah, I'm glad you can see that a shower is not a crazy rite of passage. They are actually quite awkward. And I agree with pps, a B party is WAY better and you can say WAY more stuff without getting the side eye from grandma.

mysticl

I hope no one throws me a shower or B-party. 

bablingbrooke

I'm sorry  As funny as it sounds, though, this is something that won't bother you once the wedding comes and goes.  It really won't.  Hard to see it now, but trust that it's true.

I almost didn't have a shower.  My sister was my MOH and barely showed up sober to the wedding--fine, it's all I could have expected of her and I knew what I was getting into.  My BMs threw my bach party but all lived OOT and spent their money and planning flying me to them, rather than the other way around.  My aunts found out about the lack of shower and threw one, but had they not I wouldn't have had one.  And I would have been bummed, too. But frankly once I saw DH on our wedding day nothing could have upset me.

Many people have engagement parties.  No one threw us an e-party, even though I know a lot of people have them.  We didn't dwell on what people weren't doing, we just focused on what people did do, and in doing so were so overwhelmed with gratitude and love there was no room for disappointment.  Campy and cliche-sounding, but also true.

banana468

I think it's fine to be bummed.  But I commend you for also seeing the big picture and moving on.

deepcovejackie

Good for you OP!  You are definitely not missing anything.  A bunch of folks here havent had BP or showers.  Everyone seems to have lived through it.  Have a great wedding!!

lizbiz1485

Everyone's different. I'm getting married in three weeks and I haven't had a shower and probably won't be having one.  Meanwhile my friend who just got married had 7 or 8 because different circles of friends all wanted to throw her one.

I'm looking forward to my bachelorette weekend which is going to be me and two other friends.  I plan on having a great time and not feeling the least bit deprived.

ks3pink

I'd rather miss out on the bparty than the shower.  A lot of people around here don't do wedding gifts, they just do shower gifts and since we will need everything that would be my choice.  So I'd be bummed too!