I think I'm entitled to be annoyed now, lol

megk8oz

So the drama with my older sister has settled for the time being. We have case workers checking in on a daily basis, and she is back on the Prozac ... and aside from typical "kookiness", she's actually kind of pleasant to be around (So yay!).

But now I am a little over 3 weeks out and I just found out that neither of my sisters have gone for alterations yet. My older sister will apparently be going late next week "If she finds time". Which, she should only need a hem (My mom got her into the dress and she apparently lost some weight so everything else fits ok), and I know that doesn't take more than a week usually, but for cripe's sake with Christmas right around the corner everything takes longer than usual.

And my younger sister (The MOH, whom I might need to kill), has apparently refused to try on the dress since the David's Bridal incident. Which, wouldn't care, but we're 3 weeks out, if she needs the bigger size, we need to know this. We're kinda running out of time to get it even if we pay the rush fee. Whenever it comes up (I've been trying to stay out of this, my mom has graciously accepted the role of being the bad guy), she just says "Nope, I can't do that until I lose another 5 lbs". I'm pretty sure she's dropped the 5lbs and then some, and I get it, she has severe image issues (I do, too) ... but seriously, we have 3 weeks (And Christmas falls in that time, which is just not helping my anxiety). I know she doesn't want to admit she might need a size 8 ... which, she honestly probably will fit into the 6, but we have to get her @$$ in it to know for sure ... but seriously, how hard is it just to try the damn dress on to know for sure?

Like I've said in the past, neither of them have been a BM before (My little sister has never even been to a wedding!), and they both treated me like I was this insane Bridezilla for ordering dresses 4 months out ... so I'm really just guessing this is just them "not getting" how it works or how long things like alterations or getting an entirely new dress could take. And the fact that it's my mother and I explaining it (And not some "wedding professional"), they're probably thinking we're being over-dramatic nutcases when we say it needs to be done, like, now. 

Ok, this was just a vent, nobody's getting booted (Today, lol)and I do know "If they don't get it done, that's their problem" ... but seriously, since I really only asked them to get dresses that fit and the wedding is so effing close ... am I being unreasonable being just a tad ticked off at the moment?

aerinpegadrak

Horse tranquilizers.  Knock the younger sister out and shove her into the dress.  Take matters into your own hands, woman!

banana468

If your mom is willing to be the bad guy, now is the time to say,

"Put the dress on by Sunday afternoon.  If it fits, then great.  If you do not have a dress that fits for your sister's wedding, you won't be in it.   Period."

This is one of those FEW things that they have to do. 

rainedrop6

Don't stress yourself over it. If your sisters show up in dresses that don't fit them it's a poor reflection on them, not you. I promise It won't invalidate your marriage and you'll still be marrying the love of your life, which is all that actually matters anyway.

mags0607

I would be a tad annoyed. Keep having mom be the bad guy and trying to get them to try on the dress. Little sis at least needs to figure out what size she needs.
 
One other option is to find a local seamstress if you can, and explain the situation. Ask her if she can do rush alterations if say, three days before the wedding this is still an issue.

I wouldn't just "let them show up in an ill fitting dress" because ( and I may be assuming something not true) it doesn't;t sound like your little sister will go down the aisle in a dress that doesn't fit right.

jenn.daniel

I'd be annoyed. 

Janice12543

My MOH/SIL did the same thing, but she waited till the MOnday of my wedding to get it done.  Wedding was on a Friday.  She wanted to make the front part into a sweet heart neckline and she needed a hem.  Well she picked it up Friday morning (Wedding pictures began at 2:30).  She never tried it on at the Semstresses shop, and when she put it on they never hemed it.  

LMAS of she looked so stupid and all night her family members kept saying to her that she should have gotten her dresse hemed.  

isufans4ever

I think that you should kick them both out!!!! Hahahaha ( I am only kidding) I like to cause drama!

SarahPLiz

Well Crap! YOu have every right to be annoyed. Im glad you are letting mom be the bad guy. YOu don't need that stress.

jeannigirl

These girls need to grow up and do what they need to do to be part of your wedding day if they don't then they have removed themselves from this.

I think that I would say your not asking much of them that getting them into their dresses and getting them altered. Set a time and say if you don't get them by this time then I will know you have no intention of being part of my BP. 

Geeze why can't people act like adults and stop causing family stress on a day like this. Then remove yourself from this.

megk8oz

Like, I really didn't ask much. I have 3 BMs (My 2 sisters and FI's sister) and to date, really the only thing I've asked them to do is get the dress, and make sure it fits.

Unfortunately, since I was the only 1  of my mother's daughters to inheirit the "I'm not the center of the universe, and that's okay" gene, you'd think I was asking them for the blood of their first born.

LarissaAnn

You *should* ask them for the blood of their firstborn.  Then maybe they'll take something as minor as "get your dress altered" more in stride.

aerinpegadrak

Step 1: Have Mom get her hands on the dresses.
Step 2: Invite the sisters out to lunch.  Your treat, a nice place, whatever it takes to make sure they go.
Step 3: Get "lost" on your way to lunch, end up at the seamstress.

saisongbird

[QUOTE]Step 1: Have Mom get her hands on the dresses. Step 2: Invite the sisters out to lunch.  Your treat, a nice place, whatever it takes to make sure they go. Step 3: Get "lost" on your way to lunch, end up at the seamstress.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

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megk8oz

Ooh, Larissa, I like your way of thinking. Maybe I should just go all bridezilla on them. It'll be like the "Scared Straight" program, lol. "You don't want to get your alterations? Fine, then you're assembling 500 favors [for our less-then-100 guests] completely unassisted and writing the Thank You cards for my shower. And they'd better sound like something I'd actually write! And if you don't like it or I hear any complaining, you're BOTH fired!", lol.

My mother might kill me. It's sad that I'm the only one that "fears" her on some level, hahaha.

megk8oz

And something else that really is bothering me about it is my youngest brother actually got measured for his tux and sat through getting a haircut "to look nice for the wedding" without so much as a peep, but the 2 them can't get their alterations done.

This normally wouldn't seem like a big deal, but my youngest brother (He's 9, we adopted him when he was 3) has Asperger's Syndrome and severe sensory issues. He's come a very long way from when he was smaller, but he still will totally have a coniption if something rubs him the wrong way. We actually didn't have him as an RB, because he still will do things where he'll say "Oh yeah, I want to do that" and then the second he goes to do whatever it is, he'll totally have a meltdown about it.

One of his big beefs is haircuts. He has let his hair grow to his shoulders [and has totally hated it being so long] because he can't stand the sound that scissors and buzzers make when they're so close to his ear. He also hates people being "in his space", so barbers leaning around him and such just set him right off.

So the fact that he let some girl whip a tape measure around him and made him try on shoes (Once his shoes are on they do not come off until it's time to get ready for bed) and then he got a haircut an hour later, and he really did not make a peep about it even though these things would normally push him over the edge, but the 2 of them (Who are grown adults) can't try on a dress because "they feel fat", just makes me want to choke a b!tch.

SarahPLiz

Wow, Meg, that's quite an honor that your brother sat still for that. It must be a testament to how well your parents worked with him, and mostly how much he loves you.  For a child with sensory processing disorders, it takes a lot of focus to be able to handle situations like that. I am impressed that your brother made it through that day.  

FWIW, My godchild is on the autism spectrum and has ADD, but I still asked him to be our RB. If he freaks at the last minute and doesnt want to do it, then he can go in the back room and decompress (usually involves stripping and lying on the bed with nothing touching him) and we just won't have a ring bearer.