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s/o of brothers GF not being a BM

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OP "how close to the wedding is too close to ask BMs?"
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so i would like to include my brothers gf in the wedding but not as a BM. my other  2 brothers' wives will most likely be BMs, (unless they decline) though but i am not as close to my brothers gf, havent known her as long, and i am concerned that if the relationship doesnt last, it would be awkward.

so how can i honor our friendship and her place in my family with least drama potential?

have her do a reading? idk?

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  • blackfire5thblackfire5th
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    edited March 2010
    Yep, readings are great and basically on par with the bridal party, except they probably have it better because they don't have to worry about buying a specific dress or throwing a bach party/shower. 

    However, it is okay to not have her do anything.  Being a guest is still an honor and hopefully she understands that you really can't have everyone do something special. 


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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    How long has your FBIL and her been dating?  If it might not seem like it will last then I wouldn't have her do anything at all.  It could still be awkward having her do a reading at the wedding if they broke up.  If you still want to include her then I think a reading is a nice way to do it without asking her to be a BM.
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  • suz62984suz62984
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    I wouldn't include her at all unless they have been dating a few years but that's just me. If you do want to include her a reading would be a good place. If they break up you can forget the reading or have someone else do it.
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    I'll be honest, I wouldn't include her in the wedding at all.  The whole relationship seems pretty iffy and if you want to only include people you know will be in your life in a year or more, I'd not ask her.  Just have her come as a guest.  My sister was MOH, had been dating her BF for about 9 months, We didn't include him in the WP or in the wedding at all.  He was perfectly fine being a guest.  Which was great because now, 7 months later, they aren't even together anymore.
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