Female Ushers

purpleXdandelion

I have 2 female cousins that I am pretty close with (but not close enough to be in my bridal party) that I wanted to have as female ushers (i'd call them hostesses). What duties would they have? for example I wouldn't want them to "escort" people in, just lead them to their seat perhaps? I would have them wear the same style dress as my bridesmaids only in black. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!!

mbcdefg

I think calling them Ushers is fine. I would use "Hostesses" only if that's common in your circle.

I also think it's very unfair to request that they wear a specific outfit if they are not bridesmaids. Let them wear what they want. If they ask for guidance, maybe suggest black dresses, but otherwise don't make them wear something specific. If you insist on specific dresses, then I think you should buy them.

I also think it's fine to just let them enjoy themselves as guests. Maybe you could invite them to hang out with you and the bridesmaids/moms while you get ready or go to the salon (maybe treat them to hair, makeup or nails if you have the budget for it).

SaraAndrew2010

I've also seen female ushers called "usherettes".  Instead of asking them to wear specific outfits, you can help them stand out as having a role in the wedding by giving them small corsages.

mbcdefg

I think the corsages, rather than having them buy specific dresses, is a very good idea.

SarahPLiz

ditto PPs. Don't dictate their exact attire. ANd I don't see why they couldn't escort people to their seats. .

SaraAndrew2010

I think when OP says that she doesn't think the female ushers should escort the guests, she means that they won't offer their arms to physically lead the guests to their seats.  Instead, they will just lead the way.

trix1223

The can be ushers.  Ditto pp:  unless it's common in your area, I wouldn't call them "hostesses". because ushers is a much more accurate description of their role.

You get to choose the attire of your WP.  Since they are NOT in your WP, you don't get to tell them what to wear, and you certainly can't require them to get a specific dress.  If you require it, you have to pay for the dresses.

SarahPLiz

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_female-ushers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:5c677556-f8a3-449c-b4f3-29361c9c82dfPost:857ce64c-d3d4-462f-8571-5ec9031b1048">Re: Female Ushers</a>:
[QUOTE]I think when OP says that she doesn't think the female ushers should escort the guests, she means that they won't offer their arms to physically lead the guests to their seats.  Instead, they will just lead the way.
Posted by SaraAndrew2010[/QUOTE]

I know what she means, I just don't know why they can't offer their arm. I have offerred my arm to elderly people before when they needed it. And I have never actually seen ushers take the arm of anyone except the grandparents and other not so able people. All the weddings I have been to, they just tell you what side to sit on.

Either way, you can still have female ushers.