When I got engaged, I had known that I was going to ask my one really good friend, now roommate to be in the wedding. She did play a role in helping get the two of us together, and I know that she was actually planning on being the MOH. When I asked her to be a BM, that is where all the trouble started. I started to feel like I was walking on eggshells every time I was around her, like if I did even the slightest thing she wouldn't talk to me for days...and that gets awkward when you live with a person. I don't talk about the wedding to her or even around her, because any time I would or if someone asked me about it, she would roll her eyes and get a super annoyed look on her face. Another time when we were at a party, she vented to my FI that she hated talking about the wedding, and she hated another one of the BM, and she feels that she should be allowed to give a speech at the wedding.
It has become obvious over the past couple months that she just does not like me anymore, she is not supportive of the wedding or the bridal party, and is not happy at all that I am happy. My mom and dad, as well as the rest of the Bridal party and other close friends have told me countless times that I need to tell her she is out, but I feel like I can't take back something I already asked. She also has told my brother she doesn't think she is in the wedding anymore, but I know that she is not willing to back out herself, and would prefer that I tell her she isn't in it so that she can tell everyone what a Bridezilla I have been. I have reached the point where we can't even be in the same room because she makes it incredibly unpleasant. My FI and I have given her countless chances, and now I don't know what to do.
The last thing I want to be is a Bridezilla, but I also don't want anyone standing beside me who is not happy for me and clearly does not want to be there.