My situation is a little difficult because I was raised in a bi-cultural environment. The older generation (my parents, aunts, uncles) were born in Vietnam, but the younger generation (me, my sisters, my cousins) were born and raised American. So when it comes to my wedding, there's a little bit of a culture difference. I've decided to lean more towards a traditional American wedding with some minor Vietnamese accents, however, I'm not sure if other members of my wedding party are clear on the rules. I'm going bridesmaid and flower girl dress shopping tomorrow. My sisters are my bridesmaids as well as my 16 year old cousin (a junior bridesmaid). My two young cousins, 8 and 9, are my flower girls. In Vietnamese tradition, the bride's family pays for bridesmaid and flower girl clothes. According to American tradition, the bridal party pays for their own attire, which is something I'm going with because we're on a tight budget. However, my cousins' mothers are under the impression that my family is footing the bill. What is a tactful way for me to break the news to them that they're paying for their own attire? I have a really huge extended family that tends to be easily offended and gossip a lot. I don't want a reputation as a bridezilla, but can't afford to say yes either. To be fair, my cousins' families are very well off so it really wouldn't hurt their wallets either, but I still want to approach the situation as sensitively as possible. Any advice?