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What to do with an extra girl?

We have had our wedding party picked out for quite a while and want the same number of men and women, however I have one friend (female) that I really want to include somehow and we don't really have another male to add in to the wedding party.  Any suggestions on what I could do to include her?  We're having a VERY short outdoor non-religious ceremony.Thanks!!

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    If you really want her to be a BM then ask her to be a BM.  You don't have to have the same number of men as women.  I think it's silly to exclude a good friend just for the sake of having even numbers.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_extra-girl?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:66e2cab3-0d2a-4af7-9775-0db898e49f8aPost:ac7452f5-a38e-4909-a593-5d40b2b25749">What to do with an extra girl?</a>:
    [QUOTE]We have had our wedding party picked out for quite a while and want the same number of men and women, however I have one friend (female) that I really want to include somehow and we don't really have another male to add in to the wedding party.  Any suggestions on what I could do to include her?  We're having a VERY short outdoor non-religious ceremony. Thanks!!
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    Tell her that she's not welcome to be in your wedding party because it's more important to you that the numbers are even. Of course she'll understand!
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    you can include her and have 2 BM walk with 1 GM down the aisle. i've seen it done before and didnt think anything of it. trust me no one is going to notice! :)
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    I hate when people get caught up on having to have even sides even if it means excluding someone you care about! You don't have to and quite frankly no one cares that there will be one extra girl on your side. Most people won't notice! So if she is someone you would include as a bridesmaid if you had an extra guy then include her now.
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    If you want to keep the even sides you could ask her to do a reading. I have a close friend that I was on the fence about asking to be in the WP or not, and although I ended up on the "not" side I asked him to do one of our readings and he's really excited because he said this is his first "speaking role" in a wedding lol.
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    I don't want to ask her to be a BM now because she knows we've had the wedding party set for quite a while (I get married in 3 months) and I know she's feel awkward if she was going down the aisle by herself.
    A reading is definitely a possibility - thanks!  If anyone has any other constructive ideas I'd really appreciate it!

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    Oh, I answered this post on another board, didn't realize you'd posted it twice. This is what I said over there:

    Can she not just walk by herself after the other pairs? If she wouldn't mind, I don't see why it would be a problem, unless the unevenness of the sides would really bother you. For such a short non-traditional ceremony outside, I don't see why there would need to be the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. The guests will not care, I'm sure. If she's important to you and you want to include her, I say go for it.

    And in response to your saying, you don't think she'd like to walk by herself: is this from asking her or just assuming? If you'd like her involved, then the whole walking alone or not thing should be her choice, no?
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    Our wedding party is all over the map.... including the fact that one of the groomsmen, my brother, is walking me down the aisle, I have a 'man of honour', etc... we have someone walking the flower girls and ring bearers, and have made use of the 2 guys on each arm of a centre girl to make it all work.... I don't think it matters if its all even
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    Walking alone is ok or one GM could escort 2 BMs (one on either arm).

    If you already asked around for your WP, I would definitely say do a reading. Don't ask her to do lame stuff like program hander outer or guest book attendant. 
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    If you are really her friend, you could say to her at this point, "I was wrong to exclude you because of the stupid even numbers thing. I'm ashamed of myself and I owe you a big apology. If you'll accept my apology, I would love to have you in my bridal party."

    Otherwise, I wouldn't bother trying to find a pity job for her, because that's just as bad as leaving her out in the first place.

    Either way, though, you owe her an apology. Leaving her out to keep the numbers even was just cruel.
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    You could also make her your personal attendant...
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_extra-girl?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:66e2cab3-0d2a-4af7-9775-0db898e49f8aPost:3121331b-a59a-4d25-bf80-8c645e582846">Re: What to do with an extra girl?</a>:
    [QUOTE]You could also make her your personal attendant...
    Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

    <div>The bride's biitch? No thanks. =/ </div><div>
    </div><div>Maybe it's just a regional thing but I don't like/get the concept of PAs. Just nicely ask your BMs or a family member to do something (reasonable) if you're in a bind/rushed the day of. </div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_extra-girl?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:66e2cab3-0d2a-4af7-9775-0db898e49f8aPost:ec672200-68a4-4510-971f-b8c8394070e1">Re: What to do with an extra girl?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Feed her to the crocodiles.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

    I read the title and thought: Put her in a garbage bag but I like yours better!

    OP: It's never too late to ask.  If you really want her there, ask her.  Asking her to do a pity job will just add fuel to the fire.  If you really don't feel comfortable asking her to be a BM then ask her to do a reading.  It's the only thing I would consider an honor besides being in the WP more than being a regular guest (because that is an honor in itself).
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_extra-girl?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:66e2cab3-0d2a-4af7-9775-0db898e49f8aPost:fedab32a-9297-42be-a7bb-24e5324bf1e6">Re: What to do with an extra girl?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you are really her friend, you could say to her at this point, "I was wrong to exclude you because of the stupid even numbers thing. I'm ashamed of myself and I owe you a big apology. If you'll accept my apology, I would love to have you in my bridal party." Otherwise, I wouldn't bother trying to find a pity job for her, because that's just as bad as leaving her out in the first place. Either way, though, you owe her an apology. Leaving her out to keep the numbers even was just cruel.
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    This.
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