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Asking BMs to be in WP

dco324dco324 member
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I live a few thousand miles away from the girls I would like to ask to be BMs and I have been looking for a nice way to ask them.  I've seen lots of girls making BM cards and wondering how that worked.  Do you just mail them the card and wait for them to call and say yes?

I was thinking of mailing them a card and putting a note on the back envelope flap not to open until they call me so that I can sort of be there.  I'm not great with words which is why I'm leaning towards a card that can say what I want to say without me having to fumble around words.

I also thought of sending each girl a small flower arrangement with the card asking if they would be a BM, but this might be too much?

Any thoughts?
I married my best friend on July 8, 2011
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    Waiting for them to answer is not ideal.  Call them up and ask.  This is what I did because all of my girls were spread out throughout the country.  Afterwards I sent them each a card, kind of asking and kind of thanking them.  I would call first and ask.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited September 2010
    I think it's important to remember that the honor is in BEING asked, not in how you're asked.  I personally would NOT send a card.  I'd make a phone call and ask in person.

    A card can get lost in the mail.  And you don't get the fun of hearing your friend's voice when you ask if you send a card.

    The wedding industry would have you believe that everything about your wedding must be a production that's clever, creative, unique, imaginative, and somehow cost money, or your wedding won't be special and memorable.  And that's just not true.

    Call you friends.  If you want to send them a card after they say "yes" and tell them how excited you are, fine.  Do I think it's necessary to send flowers or a gift to thank them for saying yes?  I don't. 

    You'll be giving them a TY gift just before your wedding.  I'd save the money you'd spend on floral arrangements now, and use it to get an even more special gift to thank them for standing with you.
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    Not everything related to the wedding has to be a ceremony in and of itself.  
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  • dco324dco324 member
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    Thanks for setting me straight-it is easy to get all caught up in the extravagant parts of weddings.   I will just call them and know that is enough.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    ::clapping for dco::  Thanks for listening with an open mind.  Come back often.  I think this is a great board, and you'll get good, plain spoken advice here.

    Welcome to the board.
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_asking-bms-wp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:6ad6f1b4-2c4b-4481-a9bf-64043c7eb57cPost:715a9d4e-bc3d-40a7-aae6-6304732fff24">Re: Asking BMs to be in WP</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks for setting me straight-it is easy to get all caught up in the extravagant parts of weddings.   I will just call them and know that is enough.
    Posted by dco324[/QUOTE]
    Bravo!
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