I have a friend that I used to work with that I am considered asking to be a bridesmaid. She is married to a pretty close friend of my FI's, but I'm not sure if my FI wants to ask him to be a groomsmen or not (he's on the east coast right now, and is sleeping, so I can't ask)
Is it rude to have her in my bridal party if he's not in my FI's?