Wedding party help!

jenster5757

So here's a little background: We are doing a destination wedding in key west, about 50 people and in my mind I only wanted to have 2 or 3 girls and 2 or 3 guys... I have my sister, sister in law and best friend as definites for me. So my fiance already asked 2 of his close friends and wants to ask another but didn't think about my brothers that we're pretty close with. So, that would total 4, maybe 5 guys.
So, I guess what I'm trying to figure out is how to incorporate my brothers in our wedding party without the wedding party looking uneven.

Any suggestions welcome!!
Thanks!!

Manwaithiel

Uneven. Sides. Are. Fine.

Seriously, they are.

What matters more? People or numbers? Just think about that first.

If you get deadset against uneven sides, which I hope you don't, then I guess your brothers could be ushers. But if they would expect to be in the WP, then they might be hurt you didn't ask them.

jenster5757

Thanks! You're totally right about uneven sides.
 
I  think I'm more concerned having a big wedding party for a small wedding more than anything, ya know?

Manwaithiel

Personally, I have no problems with large wedding parties and small weddings. I realize some people "side eye" that, but if it means you get the people who matter most up there, then THAT'S what's important.

I think 5 people on his side would generally be fine even for a wedding of about 50.

suz62984

Well...they are your brothers so if doesn't want to put them on his side he doesn't have to. I would ask them to each read something at the wedding. It isn't really a BS job and you're sides will stay as is.

mbcdefg

Just include whoever you want, and don't worry about numbers or evenness or wedding size ratio. You will be a lot happier that way.

Licia&Wayne

I'll ditto everyone else about not worrying about attendant/guest ratios. If you're afraid that having that many attendants standing with you while you're getting married will look strange, you could just have them sit down during the ceremony. But definitely go with the people that you want in the WP, and forget about people giving you the side-eye over having attendants that you want standing next to you.

stina93446

Don't worry about the size. Those people would be your BP members if you had a wedding at home right?

jenster5757

Thanks everyone for your input!

@Licia&Wayne - that's a great idea to have some sit!

@stina93446- Yes, if we did have wedding at home they would be.

aerinpegadrak

We had 10 attendants and 40 total guests.  It turned out fine.